> I never left my child unattended until I knew that she could be trusted to not be in any danger at all
But surely danger is intrinsic. Most accidents happen in the home - even with a child under your watch they can happen. Many people die or are injured in car accidents when they themselves are not behaving dangerously. I do not have children for various reasons, but I have babysat for friends children, and my brother is 17 years younger than me so I used to look after him during university holidays for days at a time. I made sure he didn't go wandering off into roads, I watched him closely. However, if he was in his cot with a bottle of milk at 6 months old say, I was happy to leave the room to go and get something - just as an example. I was not always in the room with him. Even when I was there, that didn't stop him tripping and banging himself on a chair. In a long winded way, I'm saying there is an element of risk, and danger always - but that can be managed so serious accidents are unlikely to happen - keeping pan handles not pointing off the cooker eg - but at the same time accepting that life is not safe, and risk is part of life, and how people learn. We can't predict every danger, and we are always learning - I wouldn't want a child to be in serious danger, but there is no way to eliminate all danger, and most people with small children that I know or have known are happy to leave them unattended briefly in one room of the house, for example. And that despite there being MUCH more caution regarding children than there was when I was young - I'm starting to feel old now, I come from the days of being a baby left alone in a pram outside shops - which nobody dreams of doing now, and in truth neither would I.
It has to be said that with children I am overcautious - the first night I was left in charge of my brother, when I was 18 and he was 8 months, I slept with my door open so I could hear if he woke - and then woke myself in a panic at 5.30am as I hadn't heard a sound from him and was convinced he had died in his sleep - and then spent about 5 minutes watching him breathing!! I actually think my overcaution and worry would be detrimental to a child.
Of course, everyone is entitled to rear their own children as they see fit - as long as it stops short of physical or mental abuse. :-)