> Lay them gently on thier side lay over him without putting your weight on his body gently stroke his head and whispering into his ear
This would've been a sure-fire way to get my pup to chew my hair/ears off

Leaning over a dog can be taken as a threatening posture or simply instigate play in a pup that likes to rough-house, so the OP needs to be aware of this.
Different soothing/calming techniques work for different individuals, somthing that can sooth/calm one pup can wind another up. Also a soothing/calming technique that will work for an individual dog/pup may only work when the dog is in a specific state of mind, and it's reaction can vary depending on how wound up it is, or why it is wound up in the first place.
Eg. if the pup has been play-biting & the owner has inadvertantly wound the situation up more, then close proximity postures (ie, leaning over pup) can make things worse, if the puup is simply over-tired the same thing can help wind wind them down.