I have been asked to witness a marriage very soon for someone who is terminally ill.

I don't know the couple at all but have acted as witness at several 'secret' weddings and so have been asked again.

Usually I am so happy for the couple and give a nice card with some lovely words and a small keepsake, but am at a loss at the moment as to what words would be appropriate.

Any words or thoughts would be gratefully received as I know how important this day is going to be.

How about something along the lines of....Thank you for allowing me to be a part ( or... allowing me to share this ) of this most special day - may your sharing of vows bring you much comfort and joy.

I think Killickchick got in one there :-)

Buy a blank card and put what you really feel and what u want to say, you sound like you have been chosen because your a caring person and they must think alot of you to ask so Im sure you will have no problem finding what to write 0:-)

I would say something about enjoying their time together and making every minute count, which is what I say to any couple who get married - it's just a little more pertinent to this couple!  And perhaps one of those tiny crystal clocks for a momento. :).

Only see the 'happy'.

If you dont know the couple do they know that you know the prognosis?

You could just thank them for allowing you to share in this happy day.

Karen :)

Very nice words Killickchick and exactly along the lines I was thinking of.

Poloaussaie, the couple know that I have been informed of their situation and I have offered to meet up with them beforehand or do any running around that is needed. The prognosis is not good and the ceremony may happen sooner than planned.

I'll bet you will be just fine..............
They will not expect anything of you, just  understanding.

Karen :)

Its a very kind thing you are doing. I know in a way what you mean I was looking for a card for my Dad and it all seemed to say Happy forever ect which I did not think was quite appropriate, but I did find one that fitted.  But you know their happy ever after whilst being finite, in their eyes will be a "happy" event, so maybe a special horse shoe, or is it male? a telegram is a great thing to get (I still have mine!!) something to make it all feel more normal! A floral wedding card is another nice touch!

Whatever you do its great that you are helping at this, both sad, and happy time.

I'm sure that just by being there and helping out when they need someone will be enough. It will be hard though because when I always wish people many happy years together and they may not have that time together.
I hope that their special day brings comfort to them both.
I'm intrigued as to how you've ended up at so many secret weddings though????