> advice is always taken on board but there are lots of people willing to give lots of difo advice so you telol me how do we knw wivch person to take advice from when there are many opeeps giving advice.thanks donna
Thats a valid question.
The advice the majority of us on here give is to not use aversives/unpleasant things, because these can go wrong and can do harm.
Using positive reward, and managing situations so the dog cannot make a mistake in the first place, does no harm and is highly unlikely to go wrong, generally when it does its something simple to rectify.
When punishment based training goes wrong, people get hurt and dogs die.
Thats why we stick to reward based things, hands off non aversive methods.
A puppy, as in the OPs case, will want to play bite, and a toddler and a baby to the puppy are suitable playmates. Neither the puppy nor the children can change their own behaviour because they know no better, so the children WILL squeal and wave their hands around and wind the puppy up, and the puppy will find these things exciting and grab for hands and feet and anything he can reach, in play.
Using aversives to cure this behaviour is dangerous for a lot of reasons.
Firstly the puppy when he is play biting is focussing on the thing hes biting.... the toddler. If he gets sprayed or rattled at he may well associate that with the child NOT with his own behaviour, and so he may begin to think 'toddler = nasty'. He may learn to fear the toddler and fearful dogs are very easily turned into aggressive dogs!
Secondly, dogs trained by having unpleasant things done to them have a much weaker bond with their owners in many cases and after a while, they do not learn good things nearly so easily, so it makes the dog harder to train.
If you have kids a good idea is to think to yourself - would I use this method on a 18 month old child (who is to all intents and purposes, similar to a dog, not brilliant at communicating, lacks self control, tends to grab for things and be captivated by moving things or funny noises).
I am guessing here that no one would rattle a bottle at a child or spray it in the face with water, and if you watch The Dog Whisperer.. you wouldnt do any of those things he does to a child either..
So why would you want to do them to a dog? (And dont tell me children are not aggressive or violent, toddlers bite, kick, punch slap hurl abuse etc just as a dog can, and just as a dog can... a child can also grow up to be a vicious killer..)