ive just got back from the hospital ,my son has been kept in :( he was beaten up badly tonight ,hes in a mess !!! he face looks so bad but the worry is he has blood coming from left ear !!! hes had CT scan and its shown no breaks to his scull that god!!! he may have a broken shoulder ,bless him hes 20 in june and 6f 5 and never had a fight in his life ,i carnt stop crying ,he was at a friends house when this happend , he is so frighten over all this ,so am i :(

the lad as been arested that did this but thats not the point , it could have been so much worse and my son could be dead...im ready for a nevers breakdown i think :(

White lilly, you have my sympathy over this.  I think that this is one of the main worries when you have sons.  The same thing happened to one of my sons when he was the same age as yours and he was the vicitm of an attack prompted by mistaken identity.  In his case, the other person was never charged as there were no witnesses and it left my son with problems for many years because of it.  If your son is offered counselling, try to persuade him to accept it so that there are no long-term problems.  I hope that today will find your son much improved. Thinking of you at this difficult time. x

WhiteLilly,
My thoughts are with you and your son at this time. I hope to god that he is ok and that he hasn't suffered any serious injury.
There are some nasty vicious people out there who don't care how badly they hurt someone.
I'm glad that the male has been arrested who has done this and if your son has suffered a broken shoulder or anything like that which constitutes serious injury then the male that has done this would be looking at GBH and quite possibly a prison sentence.

I know its hard but your son needs you to be strong for him now while he is recovering from this nasty attack, which from what you have said is totally unprovoked.
Victim support are very much likely to be in touch and i would advise him to take this up and they can assist is many ways, including that for the family as well.

Fingers crossed that your son isn't too badly injured and makes a full recovery in all ways.
The only way to help bring back power to your son is to bring justice to the world and press charges and take him to court.

Thankfully your son is ok , he will be shaken up , it is so worrying having lads of this age .

Take care

roni

Oh WhiteLilly, how horrible for this to happen to your son. Hopefully the person responsible gets what he deserves and not just a slap on the wrist from the justice system.  I do hope your son, and you, are ok. 

((((hugs))))

Just wanted to add (((((((hugs))))))). An awful time for you what with the worry about the pups too. My son is 35 now and often walks to and from his girlfriends in the centre of Manchester at night and I really worry. He too is a gentle lad and very trusting of people. Sounds like your son is lucky in that he will be ok, physically anyway and also having a top mum to care about him. I too would encourage him to go down the counselling road. It will help him get his confidence back. more ((((((((hugs))))))

Im so sorry to hear that white lilly and just want to send you and your sun a big ((((Hug)))) and I hope the scumbag that did it gets what he deserves.....lets hope our justice system doesnt let you down.

Hope your son recovers quickly.

Take care
Philly xx

Hi up date ....tom is home now and looking very brused and batterd but thankfully hes ok ...the police will come to take a statment soon i hope :( .... he is going to get some help so he can talk about it , it has frightend him alot !!, hes got his own flat and works full time as a chef ,he dont want to go to work (understandable) and is worried sick to go home :( so for now hes staying here so i can take care of him ...

thankyou soooo much for your lovely kind words all of you ,i jusr feel sick of what could of been but we are stronge and we over come all this with time ((hugs)) to you all xxxx

White Lilly, i am sorry to hear about your son, i wish him a speedy recovery, What a shock!! I have no children, but at times children must be such a worry.....best wishes  x

White Lilly,

So sorry to hear about your son, hope he recovers quickly and will accept help in talking about it - when he's ready.  He must be very shaken up.

Hopefully the person who did this will pay in full.

Thats just awful- really don't see what fighting does- Glad to hear your son is ok and I hope he can get his life back to normal and not let this hold him back- all the best :-) ...

Do they no why this guy went after your son in the first place?

Hi dolface ,all this over a girl :( my son started seeing his x girlfriend :( and the other lad wasnt happy .

How is he today?

White lily
Hope your son is OK what ever was at the root of the argument he will be very shaken up.
TLC in vast quantities required.

How awful for your son (and you) White lilly.  I hope he's feeling a little better this afternoon and can put this behind him.  It's very frightening, especially that this happened in someone's home where he presumably felt safe.

I am so sorry to have read this, my sons are 13 and 16.  I get really worried when you hear of the knife crime etc.
Hope he makes a good recovery, thought are with you and yours.
Yvonne

Hi bilbobaggins ,the thing is there wasnt any argument the door was kicked in and the lad just went for my son :(!!

i know earl its frightend the life out him
:(

i have 4 children tom is my oldest , my youngest is 9 !! whats it going to be like in another 10years???:(

Sorry white lilly, I somehow missed the post where you said that your son was home and that is why I posted asking how he is today.  My son, who was beaten up, was also a chef, and he was beaten up in broad daylight in the car park when he was coming out of work.  He had never seen his assailant before and later found out that the previous chef had been seeing the girlfriend of a friend of the thug who set upon him. He wouldn't change his job, but he had post traumatic stress for years later.  I think it would have been better had the thug been caught and charged.  At least your son could identify his assailant so hopefully, he'll get his just rewards and your son will have the satisfaction of knowing that he has been punished.  I am sure that things will improve with time, I feel for you, I really do.

thats awful oldilocks :( , the world is getting worse :( i hope your son is ok now xxx

thanku xx

Yes thanks, he is fine now!  :)

Good :) .

On his way home one evening a car pulled over and asked my son for directions .While he was talking to the driver two lads jumped out the car and beat him up.
He was on his way home from working with other kids doing their Duke of Edinburgh awards !!!

The people were caught and sent to court. They were "reported" as saying, if we don't pull we fight!!

I so hope your son is ok. Especially as it was in his home .Awful.
Just as importantly are you OK?? I was terrified everytime my lad went out for ages... My son got over it quicker than I did.

not yet bilbobaggins every time i close my eyes i have this imige of him on the floor curled up in a ball tryin to protect him self :(:(:(.

hes here for how ever long he needs tobe ,hes in bed now fast asleep .x

why o why are there some evil young people out there just looking to hurt our kids !!!!

I am so sorry to hear about your son, what a terrible experience for both of you. My son was subjected to a terrible totally unprovoked attack whilst at school, and I was so upset to think of what he had been through and the fear he must have experienced every time he stepped back through the school gates. It really shocked me how well he coped and if anything afterwards he seemed much stronger emotionally. I wish your son a speedy recovery and send my heartfelt sympathy to you as his Mum, I know just how much it hurts to see them injured in this way.

Oh no how awful, was this one of his flatmates that did this?
I'm so sorry - I do hope he can overcome his upset and fears in time.

Best wishes
Lindsay
x

Just adding my sympathies for the attack on your son and hope you both come through this okay. Hope they throw the book at the thug.

my hubby has just droped tom off at a friends , and some1 as just told him he as got to drop all the charges ,or hes going to get worse next time !!!

my son not tell the police who as told him this as his friend dont want to get involved has he is also worried about the gang thats going to be involved ....this is a nightmare and i want to wake up and realise all this was a vert bad dream !!

and to top it the pups are now 10days old and have come down with skwits ....i carnt cope with the worry of the safty of my son and now the pups ...please dont take this wrong way ....my son is my 1st worry and i will be going to the vets tomorrow , ive got the biggst headach and lack of sleep just isnt helping ( i want to run and scream)

Your son should not give in to these bully boy tactics. This is how nasty people get away with it by scaring the 'nice ones' into backing down.
It must be very hard and scary for him but he must be strong!!! The police will support him.

Last night must have been the night for it, my sister in law and her chap were driving home from the restaurant after a nice meal out when they saw a boy chasing another with a bottle. They got out the car and one of the lads punched my S-I-L's BF. Unbeknown to him she is a police officer so quickly grabbed him and pinned him to the bonnet of the car :-) That took him down a peg or too and she phoned the police and let them come and deal with it. Hopefully that will make him think twice about his actions.

I hope your son is ok (keep us updated) and make sure your family help to support you with the pups while your busy with everything else.xxx

oh just keep your chin up, it is so sad that this happens and its all of the time, trouble is the law aint good enough for this, i hope you and son be ok x

i will keep you posted ,i wish i had police in the family to get all this sorted ,glad he got what he had coming xx

Just seen your post, and have not read all the way through, just hoping that your boy is Ok and recovering well.

I know how you feel, I have two young lads one 20 and one 22, the 22 yr old got attacked about a year ago when on his way home with a mate after a boys night out.

They were on a quiet street at 2am in the morn walking back to my lads place, a car pulled up and 4 blokes got out and beat the s*@t out of my boy and his mate, my boy had a fractured cheek bone and had to be checked for head injuries, fortunately he turned out to be OK.

All of this had no reason and no excuse, my boy and his mate just happened to be easy meat walking along the street. They were just 'game for a laugh' to the lads that attacked them. 

my sons friend as just had all his windows put through !!! my son as only just got a new flat so hopefuly they dont know the address :( ..i am worried sick .

we carnt prove to the police who it was

Oh white lilly this is just a nightmare for you all.  How terrifying.  I really can't offer any advice of what is best to do in this situation.  Did your son's friend tell the police about his conversation with the boy who threatened your son and explain that him and his friends are behind his broken windows?  I hope you're all holding up, I really feel for you and hope these bullies leave your son alone.

WAITING FOR THE POLICE.......we have been threatend to be shot if charges arnt droped tonight ....i am **** myself

white lilly you must be petrified, have the police arrived yet?

no not yet ,ive just rand them and they said some1 will be here as soon as they can put to ring 999 if they come LOL ...what a joke .! all this and the pups are poorly ,dont know how much more i can take :(

Oh my goodness White Lilly!  I cant imagine what you are going through, what your son is going through.  Is there somewhere you and your family can go, so you dont get hurt?  9/10 the threats are meaningless, to scare someone, but there is still the chance they are not just idle threats.  You need to be safe, and if the police arent going to help, then you need to do what is best for your family.

And to have all this, on top of poorly pups. 

(((((hugs))))))

I do hope you and your son (and the rest of your family) remains safe. 

Hi White lilly

> WAITING FOR THE POLICE.......we have been threatend to be shot if charges arnt droped tonight

I don't know why I've not read this before (insomnia seems to make me more observant!) but sincere best wishes that your son's physical and mental scars are quickly treated, completely cured and eventually forgotten.

Re your above statement, any threat of violence towards victims or witnesses to prevent testimony against a criminal is treated very seriously and in this day and age the mention of shooting or guns I'm sure would add further still to the severity of the charges when those making the threats are identified and traced.

I know it will take tremendous strength and courage on the part of your son, yourself and anyone else innocently affected by these awful events but please don't let any of these vile people or their accomplices wear you down or reduce your resolve to have them duly charged and, please God, severely penalised.

Thoughts and prayers are with you all,
{{{hugs}}} Teri

Hi White Lilly

My thoughts are with you and your family.  My youngest son and some friends were beaten up in the early hours one morning - all because they wouldn't let a group of men play with their basket ball.  They were camping in a field near home when it happened at 1.00 am.  The police were called but failed to turn up until 12 hours later! One of the boys had a broken cheek and had to have a plate put in and my son had several broken ribs.

One of the other lads had recognised the voice of the one doing the kicking but when taken to an identity parade the assailant insisted on wearing a balaclava so could not be identified for certain.  The case went to court a year later but the men skipped the county the night before. We heard that he had later died whilst breaking and entering having fallen though the roof of a conservatory.

Sue

 

How did you get on with the police? I don't know what I'd do in your situation! I'd like to think I'd be strong and stand up to them, but these days who knows if that's the right thing for you or not. I really feel for you and your family! x

White lilly .......Again I just want to say I am so sorry for all you are going through right now.  You must be going out of your mind with worry. Like Trishlovesmiley has said I dont know what I would do in your situation but id like to think id stand up to them too...I feel I would but feeling and doing are 2 different things....very scary things death threats...and not pleasent even if they are just threats.....

I hope the police take it all seriously and do somethig about it for you without you  or your son being caused anymore upset than you already have suffered.
Im thinking of you both....sending you ((((HUGS))))
Take Care
Philly xx

ps Hope the pups are ok soon too xx

police came at 10am after being up all night with worry ,thay are coming back later to get a statment but my son is way to frighten to do anything now ,

ive been to the vets pups are gaining weight but cry all the time ,yesterday they had bad runs again ,vet gave me some pro kolin

ive ran in from the car and was sick everywhere ,my family are in  a mess my kids are frighten to death and carnt go to school my youngest as autisem and isnt coping at all with this nightmare

thanku all for your surport and kind words ,i realy do thanku all xxxx

OMG just read this, so very sorry Jo, what is this world coming to? hope your son will recover quick and the thug brought to justice, fingers crossed puppies are ok too, hugz to you

oh whitelily! i'm so so sorry! i hope your sons ok. thats appaling, why would someone do that??

oh my goodness white lily. Sounds awful, all i can say is stay strong, you are doing the right thing.xxx

Oh Jo, I really wish we could help in some way.  What an awful situation.  Let us know how your son gets on with the police and what advice they give you.

Stay safe.

Thinking of you.

Simone

I've just caught this thread. I do hope that your son and your family can get through this. My son was attacked and threatened a few years ago. After speaking to the police it turned out that his flat was notorious for harbouring drug dealers. :-( My son moved as soon as he heard that. Now, 10 years later, he is happy in his life with his own son. I will keep my fingers crossed that they can get the (any word you like can go here) that did this to your son. It has brought back all the memories I had for the time my son was beaten up. :-(

{{{{{{{{{{hugs to you and your family}}}}}}}}}}