My daughter is still living at home.
While at Uni etc and for first years of getting her self established we have not taken any form of keep from her. She is now 24 and earning a reasonable wage, has her nice new car and had a good few holidays. So we have decided to ask for some contribution to running the home. She does not at present want to leave the family home..or more to the point the dogs and cats!!
She does her own washing and shares in the chores, taking regular turns at shopping and cooking. The dogs get a good lot of attention as well.

I was wondering what percentage of salary other parents, (or children), give or see as reasonable.

Hiya, i left home many many moons ago but my friend only left a few years ago (aged 26) she was asked for 200 a month but 100 of that was put into a savings account for her (although she didnt know this) so when she finally did leave she actually had a good deposit for a mortgage.

I was going to suggest £100.00 as she does a lot in the home .  I suppose it depends upon how much you want to gid rid of her !!!!!

 

My sisters and I all paid one third of our take home pay from our very first Saturday jobs.  Another third was saved for us.  In addition to this we were also expected to pull our weight with the housework.  Fortunately I was the only one interested in the dog walking duties which got me out of a lot of the other stuff :-) 

My friend pays his mum 20% of whatever he is earning in that month (which takes into account that he is at Uni and works part time jobs when he can, it also took into account his work placement which was full time and he was still able to afford his car and fuel).  I don't see that as an unreasonable amount of money.

I left home at 18 to go to Uni.  Mum invested £10,000 in my flat for the deposit and I have paid everything ever since - the flat was bought when I was 19.  Glad to say I have been fully fledged, balancing my own educationm, career and personal life for the past 6 years.  I am planning to sell the flat in a couple of years and as mum owns 10/45 of the property she will be entitled to 10/45 of the profit. 

I watched the news this morning where they were discussing the bank of mum and dad and have to say I found it very disturbing and disgusting.  People older than me just take take taking from their parents when they are old enough to take care of themselves.

I think £200 is totally reasonable.  At £50 a week she couldn't even get a bedsit and would have to pay her own food bill. 

I would say more if she didn't do so much.  She does sound considerate, I am sure that she would fully appreciate that £200 is not a lot to ask in todays climate.  She's old enough to know about soaring food prices, the heat needed to keep the house warm etc. etc.

It's obvious that you have a good relationship, and, as you pointed out, she would miss the family pets (so obviously a nice girl.)  :-)

I don't think she would be surprised or unhappy about the amount.  At 24 she's not expecting you to support her forever.

Ditto my son came home when his relationship went wrong he was chuffed with £200 as he was paying about £600 and bills to live outside of the home. We paid £100 off his overdraft and kept £25 a week whilst he ate £100 a week!!!

> I think £200 is totally reasonable.  At £50 a week she couldn't even get a bedsit and would have to pay her own food bill

£200 sounds good to me also, it's what several of my friends are asking for from their youngsters.

Thanks for your replies.
I have suggested she asks a few of her peers what they pay as well.
I was thinking along the lines of £200 a month.
In the area we live a one bed flat to rent is £600+ , to buy £180k at the moment so living in an expensive area. £200 will give her a chance to save a bit as well.

She really does not want to leave home yet and we are more than happy for her to say there as well.

Thanks ;-)

Granitcity sounds you are pretty much sorted. Hope you are enjoying your independance. i left home at 17 and loved it.
Stdomingo OH suggested £100 + pet food!!!One cat and one dog are gifts from us to  her!

> We paid £100 off his overdraft and kept £25 a week whilst he ate £100 a week!!!

:-)  :-)  :-)

Bilbobaggins, I sure like my independance.  It drives my OH's mum up the wall as she is of the opinion that even though your child leaves home (and buys a house with their fiance) that you can still mummy him and even go so far as to try and mummy his fiance, Grrrrr!  Sometimes I do go a bit OTT with the independance shpeel though so I hope nobody finds anything I say offensive ;-)

£200-£300 per month seems fair (student digs is easily £300+ and I certainly charged the market rate when renting out rooms to students so I would expect a full time employed adult to be able to pay more). 

> I think £200 is totally reasonable.  At £50 a week she couldn't even get a bedsit and would have to pay her own food bill. 
>

bargin price. one of the boys i work with pays £10 a week (part timer at college) for full bed and board at home and thinks thats a lot!! we are always taking the mick about it and trying to explain how much a flat etc costs... never listens though! i think its of great benefit to learn about budgeting etc that way.

may i also say to the op well done for having such a good relationship that she wants to stay at that age- i love my parents to bits but i was chomping at the bit by 20 :)

edited a double post out, sorry

Im nearly 23, live at home. Pay rent, about £250 a month. I still buy a lot of my own shopping and do my own washing if mum isnt putting a load on. I appreaciate it is very very cheap and get on well with my folks so it works out well for all of us. I've paid rent (a proportion of my ages) ever since i started working at 16.

My mum says if she could do it all over again then she would get rid of us at 8 weeks like the dogs do, she thinks they have the right idea.  She loves me really lol!  We are all so independant in my family, there are such big personalities, that there simply just isn't enough room (or patience) for them all under the same roof.

I think im doing something wrong here,my son also 24 is giving us £20 a week and he eats like a horse, plus his girlfriend spends time at our house as well eating now and then.
IM going to have to show him this and shake him up a bit.

He works for my hubby,his dad,so maybe dock his wages. lol

Goldie i think you're right. I think my parents charging me what they do is totally fair, and as i have paid since 16 i totally unserstand the value of money. Your son is going to have a big shock when he enters the real world or property and has to pay rent/bills etc.

Maybe you could dock his keep at source :-)

i left home about 18 years ago and i had to pay my Mum 250.oo per month then!!!!
I also did house work, cooking, shopping, ironing etc and had to pay my poll tax and 1/3 of the phone bill.
None of the money was put into a savings account for me either.

> i was chomping at the bit by 20 :-)

I was gone at 18, but if I'd had a mum like the OP I wouldn't have wanted to leave.

> I was gone at 18, but if I'd had a mum like the OP I wouldn't have wanted to leave

may i also say to the op well done for having such a good relationship that she wants to stay

Thank you..it makes me happy too.

My 21 year old son pays £150 monthly. I do his washing and ironing and feed him. For the £150 he gets the upstairs of a one bedroomed house which consists of bedroom and bathroom, he his own drive and front door but has to share the kitchen with me as I use it as a dog kitchen. The only draw back is that the dogs sleep downstairs in the lounge of that house so he gets a GWP alarm call at 6am every morning!

Diane

up untill dec last year my son was paying £200 a month still good £50 a week in a double room warmth. food, washing,he just move out to his girlfriend at the age of 30 in april but i think he be back soon out of work on £60,50 a week.he has work from the age of 16 never being out of work untill now.

just hear at work yesterday lots of cutbacks and couple lost their jobs to, not good in the south.

I still live at home, can't afford to move out and with the way the economy is right now i'll be here for a lot longer.

I don't pay rent but i am expected to buy all the food for the house, which does come to a lot more than £200p/m.
I am also expected to do all the housework as well(which isn't on), cleaning a 4 bed house on your own is not easy.

I have offered and wish to pay rent, so i can not be expected to do all of the housework, i work full time on a 24hr shift pattern. I have asked for help in cleaning of the house as my father who i live with doesn't life a finger, it's often too much for him to put dishes in the dishwasher or wipe down a small coffee stain he has just created.

We have had live in housekeepers before, but they tend to be very bossy females and try and boss me about and tell me what i can and can't do in my own home, we fall out and they leave. Keep stating that having a housekeeper who has their own home to live in would be perfect - i say go through an agency, he won't and then we don't get anywhere. HELP!!! Lol..

i must be too soft on mine! i have one at home who works and he and the others when home from uni pay £100 a  month

I'm on a year out from uni on a basic salary and pay £50 a week to my mum, My boyfriend pays about £70 a week (his on twice my salary!)

So lucky mum gets £120 a week for one bedroom.

To me I'm getting a bargin.  I'm paying the same rent as I did at uni for a house, but don't buy food, drinks, or pay for any bills (and have a super duper internet connection!)

I help out with dogs and housework too :)

My 20 yr old son gives me £50 per week, doesn't eat here much as works in a restaurant, only does his own washing, and very rarely, washing up.

This brings back memories of my first month's wages - my take home pay was £22. I gave my mum £10 and thought I was rich having £12 all to myself !
(yes it was a long time ago - over 40 years :) )

Clem

Wow, you were well paid! :-D  My first full time job was 35 years ago and I earned just £7 a week and I had left home, so I had rent to pay.  Fortunately my shared room was only £2 a week :-)

£22 per month, Isabel, not per week ! :)

I have a lodger living with me at present and he pays £350pcm for the use of the a single bedroom and he has a double bedroom set up as a second living room so I rarely see him.  We share the bathroom and kitchen and he is pretty clean so no issues at all.  That would scare some of the adult children if they thought they would have to pay that amount!

> £22 per month, Isabel, not per week !

Oh I see :-)  I was loaded then although I did not know anyone posh enough to be paid monthly! :-D