My Aunt, mums sister, is in her late sixties, she hasnt had the easiest life and has bought up four kids on her own as her ex husband wasnt the nicest guy.  She still has her 35 year old son living with her, he doesnt work (is on sick benefits) and spends his days listening to loud music and getting stoned, she is frightened to say anything to him because he flies off the handle really easily, she dreds going home because she never knows what kind of mood he is in.  She is really stressed out and we are worried about her health over this.  Ive been talking to my mum about it tonight and its obvious he has some sort of mental disorder which getting stoned isnt helping, but we cant think of a way to get him out.  There is no point anyone in the family talking to him because he wouldnt take any notice, she doesnt want to throw him out in case he turns up round my nans (whom my aunt is a carer for) and starts screaming outside her house (which he has done in the past)  all we could think of was for the police to remove him and have some sort of court order / asbo put on him to stop him going near my aunt or nan's house but we cant see my Aunt agreeing to it. 

I was just wondering if anyone had any suggestions of who my aunt could contact ?

Claire

I think her GP will be the first port of call :)

Horrible situation :(

Lucy
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We were thinking that he should be sectioned, but I cant see her getting him to the doctor :(

I think you will find that if you call out the police when he has flipped they can arrest him and get him sectioned if they feel it nessesary.
You can always ring the police and ask for advice.

What an awful situation for her :(

It's so very difficult.  I'm afraid 'tough love' is the only way to go.  If he's been smoking dope for a while he'll be getting to (or is already in) the paranoid stage which would account for his  mood swings.  It's hard when ground rules aren't set out from the beginning and he's going to resent whatever she does to alter the situation.  I can't see him being sectioned, the doctors are going down this route less and less and basically, if he's not hearing voices and isn't presenting a physical danger to others they won't do it.  

Your Aunt could contact the charity "MIND" (the National Association for Mental Health) and they could guide her as to what to do next.  She definitely needs to see someone professional about this.

I do hope she, and her son, gets some help soon.

Debs

Thanks for all of your advice, I will pass on details of that charity.  He is already in a very paranoid state which is making things worse, my mum is going to advise her to see her GP, they have the same GP so hopefully he will beable to guide her in what to do as he knows what his issues are.