Help girls - I need some ideas!!  My daughter is going to be 15 this month and wants to do something with 4 friends for her birthday - trouble is, we can't think of anything!  She fancies the idea of going to a local health spa, where they can hang out round the pool and sauna, have a table set out for them with lunch and have a half hour treatment session - trouble is it's too expensive!  She's fine about that, but wants to do something that will give her that same feeling of being girly and pampered.  Do any of you have any bright ideas?

Where abouts are you based Jan? Lots of beauty salons do pampering sessions for children and perhaps if you phone around you will get a good deal. I ask because my friend has a salon and does facial, manicure and pedicure including nail art and make up for youngsters - we are in Preston, Lancs.

Thanks for that idea Hayley.  We are in Hampshire, so a bit far to use your friend, which is a shame!

What about having the pampering session at home? Buy them lots of beauty kits - facial, nails, feet and let them all do it on each other. A few candles, a good video and pizza and nibbles. Ooh I quite fancy that!!

Add to that a mini chocolate fountain, strawberries & marshmallows - they'll be in 7th heaven!

Oh yeah, of course, and a little bottle of bubbly!!

Non-alcoholic ...they're only just 15 - & some parents might object to their 15 year olds being given alcohol outside their own homes.......

Like the ideas - keep them coming!!  She's quite excited by a mixture of all the ideas - especially if it includes a chocolate fountain! 

I am planning a half days session with a friend we know who is a qualified at home for 6 of her mates to  have nails , face , and the rest

Flo will be 14 and has so well in her SATS results so far

You could check with the parents beforehand if they mind them sharing 1 bottle of bubbly between them. I know my niece was allowed to drink in the house where they could keep an eye on her!

I want a pamper party!!

My eldest is 14 coming up 15 and I certainly wouldn't encourage drinking alcohol - totally wrong in my opinion. chocolate fountain and yummy snacks sounds good.

I've had this conversation with people before. At 15 they are starting to wonder about alcohol (and I know at 15 I was drinking cheap cider behind my friends house) so surely its better to control the amount of alcohol they consume and also you are there to witness it? Just my opinion.

Do you have a college near you that runs beauty treatment courses as these often have "salons" that are open to the public. Locally you can get your nails done, hair cut, massage etc at a hugely discounted rate at the college as they are always looking for people for the students to practice on. Our local college has a fully operational salon and all  treatments are fully supervised and very professional ( you don't have to worry that you will get a haircut from someone who started learning yesterday )

This was my suggestion - or perhaps they might have a couple of students who'd come to your house and do treatments on the girls for a reasonable price?

M.

Hi everyone

She's decided to go for a pampering girls night in.  We're going to make up 'pamper packs' so that they can do all the girly stuff, have lots of snacks and I'm going to get a small chocolate fountain - they love chocolate fondue so it's a step up from that!  I won't bother with the alcohol - they're still at the overdosing on chocolate stage!

Thanks to all of you for your suggestions.

You could always make them some alcohol-free cocktails to wash all that chocolate down with :)

My daughter is turning 14, we are gonna rent a room and they are going swimming...

I too do not allow any kind of alcohol no matter what the occasion is, plenty of time to experience that. Told her when she's 19 I'll take her to the bar for a shot of tequila lol :D

19?? Are you in the states?

Dollface is in Canada, Tracey. :)

Ahh that explains it then, so if the laws are 21 in America and you are taking your daughter out at 19 - then the law over here is 18 my estimation of introducing drink at 15 doesnt sound so bad!

I cant imagine having to wait until I was 21 to start drinking! I had the best years of my life between 18-21 because of the booze lol!! (Not that I remember much of it :P)

:rolleyes: there's an awful lot more to life than getting rat a"""ed between the ages of 18-21!

I would in no way consider you to be a good role model

Yeah there is a lot more to life but when you young alcohol is a big part of your life. If you go to university there is cheap bars to allow for drinkers (at 18).

Who am I a bad role model to exactly? I enjoy drinking but I have never passed out/been unconscious or done anything I regret. I always have my dignity when going home from a night out ...so erm... who am I a bad role model to?

Yup Canada :)

How old is it there to go to the bar (legally have alcohol)? I believe in the states you have to be 21yrs old.

Drinking causes memory loss so to speak and thats how alot of under aged kids end up parents around here/std's. I too drank when I was younger but do not want my children drinking at such a young age, you really don't need alcohol to have fun and I'd rather them realize that. Not to mention the drinking and driving. Yup I tie one on every now and then but am responsible about it. Just the way I want to raise my children :)

Its 18!

A person can buy their own alcoholic drink at 18. From 14 an adult can buy them weak alcoholic drinks to have with a meal on licensed premises.

didnt no that i thought no alcoholic drinks till 18. children from the age of 5 can drink in their own homes

A teenager of 14+ can have a shandy or a small glass of wine with a meal in a pub or restaurant. :)

JG it's not just weak drinks any more.  the rules have changed.  I was quite shocked but my BF is helping set up a resturant and so has researched the drinks licence.  I was very shocked and didn't believe him at first!

Edit to add: and then the government worries about the amounth of underage drinkers!!

I don't know if I think that's a good idea or not! A shandy or small glass of wine is fine IMO, but I'd be surprised if they were allowed a G&T, for example.

The thing that got me JG was that it allows for any amount of alcohol (At parents discretion)

my mum has run pubs since i was small and was not allowed to serve anyone under 18.children 14 and under are not allowed to even sit in the bar area

Bek thats a pub though.  In a resturant with a meal is different...in the eyes of the law

yes it was a pub but they served food so under the same rules

No, she can't serve the child but she can serve the adult with the child who can then give the drink to the youngster. However where a pub serves meals, restaurant rules apply and the law says that children are allowed alcohol with their meals. Of course landlords/landladies can refuse to serve anyone they want, with or without a reason - but they can't say it's because they forbidden by law to serve them. :)

16 and 17 year old are allowed to drink alcohol brought for them by an adult 18 or over but only beer, wine,or cider with table meals