I am so naffed off being made to feel guilty.

I have my mum who lives in Mid Wales, My eldest sister who lives in Shrophire (about ten miles from mum), my middle sister who lives in Evesham and us who live in Oxon.

My eldest sister is always getting my mum to sit for my nephews so the can go and 'Network' with the right people as they have a few shops selling exclusive clothes and have to mix with the right people ! :rolleyes: Or they have to go away on business so mum again looks after the boys. My middle sister sees my mum alot more than us also as she lives nearer, she doesn't work so can pop and see her and can organise going away for the weekend as they only have one son and no animals apart from a cat.

We however both work fulltime, and have three dogs, two children and live about three hours from mum's.

Christmas is looming ( I am with you Daisy on this one Bah humbug :) ) and I hate the lets organise what is happening with family over Christmas.

I was going to ring my mum and arrange for her to come and stay with us. It was Indigo's first christmas last year but my mum said she had to go to my eldest sisters as it was her turn and she couldn't upset her ! ( She sees them all the time and is at her becon call when ever she needs my mum) I accepted this but thought it rowas slightly worng but there you go !

Anyway I found out my mum had been invited to go to my middle sisters this year even though it is our turn. I was not overly concerned as I must admit this year we want peace and quiet and want to relax as it has been such a busy time lately and we want to enjoy a good family Christmas at home pleasing ourselves with what we do ! We then got an invite to go to my middle sisters for boxing day so I said we would get back to them to see what we were doing.(Only an hours drive away) Meanwhile I had invited mum to come next weekend as she was complaining she hadn't see the girls and us for so long. Anyway I got a message this morning to say we had been invited for the day to go to my eldest sisters for a 'big' family lunch on the 27th Dec. I rang my middle sister and asked if she had been invited. Answer 'oh yes, mum and us are all going to stay all over Christmas there so the invite on boxing is now off'. Err thanks for telling me !

I have said so many times that we can't go away any where stay the mo as Min is 14 and this is more than likely to be her last Christmas  . Also to go for just lunch, three hours there and back with a 16 month old baby ? Yes good idea...not.

I then rang my mum to be told oh sorry but I can't come at the weekend anymore as she had forgotten that she had promised to go and see my eldest sister's eldest boy's carol concert at his very posh boarding school.

I was then told that why couldn't I arrange something as it had all been organised and did I know I was the only person that wasn't coming :( :(

I am just so pissed off with the lot of them ! They make me so guilty sometimes. they do not realise how important the two legged girls are to us. Not like my eldest sister who gets dogs and if they don't turn out to be what they want, ie they don't spend anytime with them and become delinquents they get rid.

Sorry rant over but I do hate Christmas for this reason, it cause so much blumin heartache !

And also I hate buying Christams Presents, especially for my eldest sisters boys, I always buy them birthday and Christmas Presents. My eldest sister never buys my lot anything. Reason 'Oh I am far too busy' It just really pees nme off big time. Whenever we have been out with them , guess what , they never remember to bring their wallets out so we and the rest of the family end up paying! This is taking the thinking they are royalty is going a bit too far !!

Sorry but I feel better now I have got that all off my chest :)

Lucy
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Never mind, Lucy - stay at home and enjoy all your girls - just concentrate on having a lovely Xmas with your 'nearest AND dearest' :) :)

Daisy Humbug

Oh the joys of family and Xmas.:rolleyes: Have a large glass of wine, and let it go over your head.

liberty ;)

Thanks Daisy Humbug. :)

We really are considering emigrating as we get so naffed off with family. We think we can make a better life in New Zealand and it is such a better standard of living etc.

I just think the more we think about it the more it makes sense :)

I am sure the girls 2 & 4 legged would love it as we know we would!

Lucy
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And I thought that I had problems (never mind Christmas only comes once a year) thank goodness :)

Bah humbug here too, I am hoping to have moved by Xmas even if I'm doing it on the day, got more viewers tomorrow so hoping they've got a damn good solicitor and their mortgage sorted coz I want to be gone and away from my family by Xmas ------- promised myself and my kids last yr was the last time we'd have to put up with it all lol, even the dumped bitch has let me down by NOT being in whelp to give me an excuse to get home soon after pressies open and dinner done grrrrrlol.

One good things is that sis in California has now decided she can't afford to come over for the holidays -------- ohhh there is a god after all keep your fingers crossed little bro and his new girlfriend have other plans too

Hi,

Put yourself and your family first and stuff the rest them:-D

They will soon get the hint have a great xmas with your own family with all the fun and games they will be missing out ;-)

Briony :-)

Hi Lucy
Just focus on your own Christmas, by the sounds of things they'd drive you around the bend anyway. Have a really nice time with the people you want to spend time with.

Ooooh LJS,

Take it from one who knows........just please you and yours ;)
Because you wont get any thanks for putting yourself out for others, you'll just end up bad tempered and mad at yourself for agreeing to anything in the first place.

Happy Xmas :)

Put yourselves first, totally agree - That's exactly what Hubby and are doing this year, just the two of us!!  We had been invited to our Son & DiL for Christmas(they only live around the corner, but we never see them!) but as her parents would be there too(not nice things said at Wedding in June by DiL Father to me, it was not the occasion to REPLY!!!) so there was no way.  Also we had to wait to see if Hubby was going to have to work over Christmas as we had thought we'd go to our Daughter's in Cambridge, but even though he is off we can't get the dogs in our usual Kennel, we did find vacancies in a couple but they would have to go in for 6days as they are closed over Bank Hols, then we found another Kennel that would be kind enough to let us pick the dogs on Boxing Day..........but they would all have to have the Kennel Cough nasal drops and he Kennels were quite a bit dearer too.  SSSSSSSSsssssssooooooo after all that we are going to have our first Christmas just the two of us since 1977, WOW!  Really looking forward to it too!  We are going to visit our Daughter a few days before Christmas as our Kennels could fit them in then so I intend to do a Christmas Dinner there too!!  Can't wait!

Sweep x