The last few months I have been feeling pretty down.  I'm not sure why this has happened now. I do have a congenital condition that I don't tell anyone about, and only my VERY close family/friends know about it.  I have coped with it for the last 39 years and now suddenly I have become very depressed about it. WHY??? :(  When I was in hospital last month, they offered me counseling but I refused, I'm not sure what good it would do.  I should be excited, we are moving back up to Scotland in a couple of months to hopefully a better quality of life, OH won't have to work 12 hours and commute 3 hours a day!!  I feel silly writing this but just needed to tell someone.  Thanks for listening.

Sorry to hear your feeling down Jax, but nobody can cope with everything all the time{{{Hug}}} The hours you are working would be enough to wear anybody down plus maybe the offer of counselling made you think about things in a different way. Can you not take them up on it although if you are moving back up here it might be a good idea to see what is available here too.

Where are you moving to I'm in Fife.

Sometimes it can help to talk to somebody who isn't too close as you can tell them things without fear of upsetting them. PM me anytime
                                                   
                                                  Anne

Whoops really should read things properly it's not you but OH who is working those hours, even so you can't have much time together plus he'll be cream crackered

Oh Jax, sorry for your sadness. As to counseling, try and think of it this way, it may help you to understand why it is causing you this sadness now. It will give you someone who has nothing to do with you to listen to you, someone you can shout at, someone you can explain your inermost thoughts to and someone who will keep your thoughts to themselves. You will not need to worry that you are burdening them with your problems that is what they do best, listen to other peoples troubles. It can help to talk to people who are not involved or close to you particulaly as they will have listened to other people with your problem and will, as far as someone without the problem can, know how you are feeling. Do just this one thing and ask the hospital for help, just the one thing to start with, you only have to do the one thing at a time, all the best I'm sure you can cope but don't do it alone when there is help available.

Sorry you're feeling low Jax. I've sent a PM (let me know if you didn't get it, it was playing up)

Thinking of you.

Hugs
Kath. xx

Jax sorry youre not feeling so good Maybe once you start getting organised for moving it will ease the way you are feeling. Good luck with the move Im in the Edinburgh area If you need a cuppa

Jean x

So sorry to hear you are feeling so low. Letting your sadness/anger out and being able to talk about it will help you I'm sure. It may well be worth talking to a counsellor. Give it a try.
Good luck with the move.............and everything else.

Val

sending ((hugs)) and best wishes xx

Hi Jax, Sorry to hear you are feeling low and pretty miserable.  You know we are all here for you.

Kay

((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) Life is never easy, nothing wrong with counseling..My friend went to one and said it was the best thing she ever did, she did say she felt silly and a waste of time ect. But after going she said life seemed so much better a brighter outlook on life. She was going thro a seperation soon to be a divorce  and 2 kids and was very depressed, but having someone listen to all her problems, concerns, who doesn't judge you and someone who doesn't no you,  ect just made it that much easier for her to cope with...Now my friend is going to university and has met a boyfriend and life is starting to get better.

Just take one day at a time, best of luck :)

Hi Jax
Hope you are feeling a bit better today. Not long now for Scotland :) :)
Gina

Jax
I am sorry to hear you are having a rough run of it.  My BF is also working 12 hours a day.  7pm-7am.  He then sleeps till about 5 and leaves for work at 6.  It has messed up his internal clock and has been really hard on us both. 
I, like you, have an end in sight though.  I keep looking at the calander and counting the days.
Whenever you feel yourself slipping downwards, take a few minutes for yourself and daydream about the life that is waiting for you in Scotland.

Keep us posted and don't forget to smile at least once a day.
Drai

life is hard on us all some times.but it helps to talk and sort out your feelings about issues.i hope scotland will help you and bring a fresh chapter to your life.
it is hard to get out of depression when your so low and some times we need help from others,there is nothing wrong with that.it is only like going to the gp with a medical problem,the hours and travel would wear any one down so this won't help you either.
i hope you feel better soon and look forward to scotland as thing's can only get better.
if you need to chat mail me im always at home.
take care and take 1 day at a time.

Jax, can you just post a little msg. to let us know things are ok. Know you are busy just a HI will do.

A huge thank you to everyone for their messages.  I have dug out the hospital telephone number and I will call them later today.  I realise this is something I must do - it just all seems a wee bit scary at the moment but I am going to do it.  THANKS.

Thanks for posting, believe me the hardest thing is making the call then the going to the appointment but once you have done it you will find help and in most cases a new, if professional, friend.

I agree, I am sure it will be a very good step forwards for you Jax :)

Lindsay
XXX