Another Mother's Day, what did I receive from my Son...........a homemade cake(made by his fiance) bought around when they knew I was out, they explained money was tight as they are getting married................hhhmmmmmmmm then they spend the rest of the weekend with her Parents, my Hubby is furious, I just can't believe how much this hurts and I am allowing it to bother me so much.  To add insult to injury, a cake, they both know I am on a diet for their Wedding!!!

Just don't know what to do next, sorry to burden you, I know it does sound trivial but............

Sweep x

I know exactly what you mean.
This year my 18 year old son is at work so bringing in a wage so for
once i thought I might get a card and small prezzie,your years his nan has brought me a
prezzie and card and given it to him for me.
What do I get this year....................? NOTHING
not a card not a prezzie not even a lie in N.O.T.H.I.N.G
He can still find money to go out with his mates though.
Kids who would have them,give me a dog anytime ;-)

I'm sorry you feel as you do Sweep, young people can be so insensitive at times, s'pose they have so much going on in their bright futured lives that they can forget about other people's feelings. Personally I love anything home-made, it shows that time and effort has gone into making it. My son wrote me a lovely poem to say how much he likes my cooking and a few other things that he likes about me. It was written in an plain old unused exercise book that he'd found, I didn't get a card, gift, or flowers etc from him, but this poem means more than anything he could have bought.
When they made the cake for you, they probably thought the same way as my son, "can't afford to buy anything, but we'll show our love this way instead"- at least they bothered, sure there are lots of Mums that never even got a phonecall, we are the lucky ones, hold on to that thought and I'm sure you'll feel tons better. :-)

yes when they get older they dont bother, my 15 yr old daughter and my 10 yr old son absolutely spoilt me and made dinner, but my 23yr old daughter didnt even get me a card she wants me to baby sit my two grandsons saturday week

Heidi

leanne made me a beautiful card (I thought she bought it woops) and some luxurious bubble bath.  Oh and a take away so I didnt have to cook. Along with three bottles of wine and four cans of stella? Not sure what she is trying to say.

I don't think that's true Heidi.  I'm 32 and still buy my mum a mothers day card and present and for my grandma.  My mum (who's considerably older :D ) still buys her mum a pressie too.

I agree Earl, still get my Mum something and I'm 40!!!! My kids get her and their other Gran something too, paid for with their own pocket money. It doesn't have to be megga expensive- they got each a bunch of daffs, (I go a bit better than that, but it depends  on the finance situation) but we are great believers in "it's the thought that counts"

i will always buy my mum a pressie on mothers day,  because she will always be my mum. I don't get my father anything on fathers day as I haven't seen him for 5 years.

My mum & I agreed this year that, as she would be in Spain on holiday for Mothers Day I wouldn't get anything, but I did text her on the day.

My 4 year old made me a lovely card at nursery and often tells me "you are the cutest mummy", and gives huge hugs.

On Saturday, in Asda I was told by my husband  "I haven't had time to sort anything out, you'd better go and get yourself some flowers ".  Then at 8.30pm on Sunday I was heard to mutter how nice it was to still be working, when others had sat down long since.

I suppose it got me a cup of tea.

Im new here but I would like to say that for mothers day, my 9 year old daughter brought me toast and milk in bed and my 6 year old son gave 50 pence to get myself a sweetie awwwww!!!!!!

kat

I'm hurting to today, 4 children, 3 of them brought me a card each and a lovely present each of a book, a teddy with a special message on along with a mug from my unborn grandchild and a boots voucher,  my 20 yr old son hasn't even given me a card, acknowledged what day it was yesterday or anything, my 16 yr old is disgusted with him and says 'forget his 21st mum' but you don't fight fire with fire do you?  I don't think he honestly realises how hurt I am, I do most things for him including the fact he's at home still and all his washing, ironing, meals on table and last week fetched him from hospital a 36 mile trip after he had an accident at work and also reversed the charge to get to me!  Not so much as a 'Happy Mothers Day Mum' when he saw me!   £40 @ wk board he pays and earns nearly 10 times that but who is the fool?  Not him I know that!

Im sure your children dont mean to hurt you, a home made cake sounds like they have taken time to show you how they feel, i would much prefere that to a box of chocs from the local shop, and for the lady who said her son forgot....He is a bloke lol, most men do this, I work in a card shop and the amount of me who come running in to buy a card at 6.30am on the day makes me laugh :D Im sure they love you all very much :)

Tell him craigles, tell him!!  Tell him what goes around, comes around, and if he expects you to be a good Mum and do all the things that you do, then he must learn how to be a good son!!  If you don't his future girlfriend/wife will have to do it!! 
Chin up girl, three out of four ain't bad, one's just a slow learner that all!! ;)

My 11 and 6 year olds each made me a card at school and made me a trinket box each at school - they were lovely. My 15 year old offered to go and buy me something - I said "don't worry it does not matter" thinking he might just get a card BUT he didn't - hughhh teenagers ehh.
I lost my mom 10 years ago and really miss her and mothers day is particualy hard. I never forgot a mother's day. For those "older" kids that don't get their mum's anything - not even a card - they will wish they had when their mom is gone and feel guilty for the times they forgot :-(

my eldest son was killed in a car crash 3 yrs ago aged 23. i'd forgive him all the mothers day cards he never bought me if i could have him back. :(

So sorry to hear that Tanni. Never thought of looking at things that way round :-(
At the end of the day the best mothers's day gift is the fact that you have children young or old to be a mom to and for those of us with children we should be grateful enough for that.

That rather puts cards into their proper perspective, tanni. :(

All we ever do for mother's day is call our parents. I don't think you only need one special day to say you love your mother/father that should be every day. I don't think you need to go out and buy things to tell someone they are speacial and happy to have them. If I were you I would give them both a hug and thank them for the cake. It's not how much you spend on someone its the thought that counts, the
biggest gift of all is just saying you love them :)

All I ask from my children is too please be good and no fighting, but I find myself asking them not to bug eachother everyday :(

doesn't it just :( am so sorry tanni...an extra kiss for my kids when I tuck them up in bed tonight.

Oh Tanni you have me in tears here now thinking how selfish I'm being.  God bless ya x

I really think that just goes to prove that he treats me the same all year round so why do I expect(hope) any different!  Good enough to help out with the Wedding though!!

My daughter however treats my the way I treated my Mum - It's days like this I wish I could pick up the Phone and chat to my Mum - she has been gone for nearly five years, not a day goes by when I don't think of her, oh she wasn't perfect(neither am I) but.........no I wont go on.

Thanx for listening
Sweep x

Sweep
if you need to talk PM me :)

I know how you feel - I think this is what us Mums are made for - being there when they need us but not when we need them, thats how its been for me as well. My story is too long to tell, but tomorrow is another day and spring is coming so enjoy.

hi sweep,
i always used to get my mum something for mothers day as this is how we thought it was supposed to be.i personally dont want anything from my kids on one day of the year to say they love me.as long as i get a hug and kiss every day and see a smile on their faces i know they love me.i personally think things like this are too commercial anyway.my mum has now decided that she doesnt want anything either,i think a hug says more anyway. :)
mel :)

My kids are 14 (son) and daughter (15) and my daughter will buy me expensive presents, cards etc for mothers day , birthdays, christmas. Wheras my son will make me a card on the computer and buy me a bar of my favourite chocolate. My daughter and me don't get on too well and I think this is her way of telling me in her way that she does love me even though she doesn't show it. My son tells me at least once a day that he loves me. Give me a home made card anyday and no present. It's what happens throughout the year that counts not just on mothers day. Yes I appreciate my daughter spends her pocket money on me but I'd rather she was able to show me throughout the year that she loves me and appreciates me like my son does.