Ever since I was at school my dad has been telling me I can do better. I could get a better husband, get a better job, get a better house........

He came to visit today and, yet again, I could be doing something better with my life. Why don't I go to college? There's a better job out there waiting for me.

DAD, LEAVE ME ALONE, I'M HAPPY.

Are all parents like this? Will I have to put up with this for the rest of his life? After all I am a grandmother Surely, by now, you would have thought he'd have given up?

Sorry to moan, but I had to get it off my chest. :(

Hmmm my mum's a bit like this - why can't I be more like my sister who has a better house, children, a new car blah blah blah.  She doesn't know she's doing it and on the occasions when I've mentioned it she's denied it then just got upset.  I would just let it go over your head.  Maybe he thinks HE could have done better and is just taking it out on you.  Parents!!

CG

Well I am not like it with my three grown up kids :D :D

well i'm still tied to my mothers apron strings (or so she thinks) and i'm a granny myself!.

I know how you feel - it's because he cares ;-)  I turned my Dad around by asking him which he'd prefer - that I was happy in my life?  Or doing what he felt I should do?  We had a long chat about it..........  Sadly he's no longer with us, but our relationship turned around after than and I felt he respected me more as a person, rather than 'his little girl' ;)

my parents have just started with this.why are you just doing dog grooming find a better job etc,mum complains that i am pawning my kids off on anyone who will have them so i can do what i want,mmmmmmmm no,my younger brother looks after them whilst i am at work occasionaly,and when i go out on a saturday night,soz mum didnt realise i couldnt have a life,this will all change when hubby comes homes in april anyway,at least my brother is offering to help,she hasnt offered once to take the kids or babysit and he's been gone since the begining of october.my dad always said i could have got better grades found a responsible job(whatever that is)i got 11 gcse's and an a level,and couldnt find a job,even the jobcentre couldnt find me anything.so i work mornings for my friend at the grooming parlour
Smile and let it wash over you,take deep breaths whilst all the time muttering under your breath things that you would really like to say! :D
mel :)

my boys are 23 and 24 i leave them to get on with life they are at a age were they will learn from their mistakes but we are here to hear what they say  or give them advise with they ask.weather they listen it up to them.

Oh I get quite the opposite. 'You wouldn't expect anything else from Emma'.  My brother on the other hand is two years older than myself and the sun shines out of his bum.  32 and he stills lives with my mum being waited on hand and foot.

my mum was the same she nagged about every thing she died 10 years ago and even now I would happily listen to her nagging if I could none of it mattered any way. Although I must admit I leave my grown up children to make there own mistakes with some advice if they ask I would hate to be thought of as a nag
Maggie