feeling sad and need to share.  A friend of eldest son, one of the older ones who hang round and boyfriend of friends daughter across the road, died saturday night.  He is best mate to my best mates son too. Was expected but not so soon.  Only just 17.  The girlfriend is 17 today, what a birthday to remember.  Puts all problems into perspective.  All the kids had a minutes silence on the school bus too.  Sorry just had to share
Fi xxx

Oh Fi, how sad for you.  It's awful when anyone close dies, but when its a youngster it is tragic.  As you say, it puts problems into perspective.

Take care

Lesley

It is always very sad when somebody dies so young :(

Lucy
xx

My friends boyfriends brother was in a car accident on the 1st. He has broken his spinal cord. Paralised for life... if he makes it.

My thoughts go out to everyone especially the family, girlfriend and best mates.

Its hard when someone so young dies, we had a girl at our school die earlier this year, the tears etc were unthinkable and it puts life into perspective.

Rox

Thankyou.

This same friend also lost her cousin 6 months ago due to a car accident. She blames herself bcause he was on his was to pick her up.... his birthday was 27th november.

EDITED- ice queen- how did the girl die at your shcool?

hey tots, It was cancer:(  she had lost all her hair and new from when she started secondary school, she went though and caught up on any work she missed and sat her GCSEs last year.  She did leave school and didn't go on to any further education.  It really made me think when I have my whole life ahead and i don't always catch up on work.

I didnt know her that well but she was so strong to lead a normal life when she knew she wouldn't be hear any longer.

Rox

Just caught up with this. We went through the same a fortnight ago with two of my son's friends (17 and 19). The shock to everyone is just awful. So if you need to talk, just email me.

Hi JG.

I remember your post about your son's friends. It is really tragic. How is he coping now?
It is such a heart braker when you loose someone you love. I lost my grandparents on both sides before the age of 8, and it broke my heart. Even now i miss them. At school i remember people talking about how annoying their grandparents are, but until you have lost them......you really don't know what it is like.

Hi Tots,
He has (or appears to have, but I'm keeping an eye on him) pretty much come to terms with it. The funerals were cathartic for all of them. It shook them all up, realising how quickly it can be all over.

I understand about your grandparents - most people never appreciate what they have till it's not there any more - such is life.

We went to the funeral yesterday, not a dry eye in the house, the church was standing room omly and more.  Hubs has gone out tonight for drinks with dad of the lads girlfriend.  My mates lad who was a bessie mate is being a little sh1t with mum!  You don't realise until it happens close to home how it has such a huge affect on people.  At church his mum and dad individually got up and spoke about him, realised then, I was in school with his mum!  My mate (mentioned above) was her year.  Oh how to meet up.  Step son is here this weekend and is 'yeh,he babysat with Leanne and we played pool here together.'
Lets hope next week is a nicer week.
After yesterday a funeral and then Jessieann's 11th birthday party....so many emotions in one day!
Fi xxx

Hard, isn't it, Fi? :(
Too many strong emotions can be hard to deal with. Your mate's lad is hurt, angry and scared, which is why he's hitting out and being a sh1t. He's got to let it out. He'll come round in time.
My heartfelt sympathies.