I think the time has come for my old girl to be PTS. She has had many problems over the last few years and several operations. I had always made a promise to myself that I would never let her suffer and once she had lost her quality of life I would let her go. But now the time has come I don't think I can do it. Cassie was my first dog she is a boxer 10 1/2 years old ,she is incontinent and is having real trouble getting up as her back legs won't work properly, she won't eat unless hand fed and just seems to have given up. I'm not looking for an answer I just needed to get it off my chest. I have made an appointment at the vets for tommorrow evening.

Bye for now Debbie

This has got to be the hardest thing. I really feel for you Jewel.
Christine, Spain.

Hi Debbie

It's always heartbreaking when we have to let them go :(
A poem for you.
Take care
Lara x

Hi Debbie,

It's the hardest thing to do I know !!

I had to make that decision about a year ago and at the time I was also questioning myself about it but like you I knew in my heart that the time was right & it would not have been fair to let my dog "Harvey" go on.

Looking back a year later I know more than ever that it was the right decision now even though it broke my heart at the time to make it & that to have let Harvey go on would have just been selfish.

It is indeed the hardest decision of all but when the time is right it's the one that your dog would wish you to make ... trust me !

It took me a year to get over losing Harvey we had him for 15 years from a pup & it will be the same for you but a year down the line we have still have our fond memories of him and we now have two new little furry friends we're getting to know.

I hope this is of some help at this difficult time.

Kind regards,

Fablab

Debbie

How sad and hard for you. She is a good age for a Boxer but from what you have said it does sound like it's time to see the vet. The vet should give you his/her honest opinion on whether there is or should be any treatment for Cassie. If not then you can be sure it's the right thing to do. If you wanted, you could ask if he would come and do it at your home if that's what you would prefer.

Thinking of you both

Pam n the boys

Poor Debbie -it has to be one of the most dreadful, but most loving decisions that any of us has to make. Thinking of you

Jo and the Casblaidd Flatcoats

<<Hugs>>

So sorry for you. I find it does help when you read poems such as this, you seem to see things through the dogs eyes.
The line.... For this day, more than the rest.
Your love and friendship stand the test.

really got to me.

sending all the love
Sharon

Oh Debbie, poor you. I do sympathise. It's the very hardest thing to do - I've done it twice now - but I told myself that my girls had never let me down so I had to do the best thing for them, although it was the worst thing for me.... I still love them and miss them. The vet came to our home both times, and I held them, and they fell asleep so peacefully and gently I'm glad I was there...they were ready to go. I'll be thinking of you. {{{{{hug}}}}}

Keep strong and remember all the happy times she is tired and she needs to go but she will wait for you.
xxxx

Dear Mum

When Jesus sent me down to earth
To show the folks just what I’m worth
He said go and find a Mum and Dad
Give them the best love they’ve ever had
Do everything that you can do
To make them very proud of you
But when I call you back to me
You must come back immediately

Well then he called to soon I Know
But I knew I had to go
He needed special help you see
He knew he could depend on me

My Job is to wait at heavens gate
And welcome folk inside
One day I know I’ll see you there
With both arms open wide
I’ll run so fast to get to you
we’ll cuddle and kiss as we used to do

Be patient Mum and don’t you sigh
It makes me sad to see you cry
I’m so sorry that I had to go
remember though I love you so
Time stands still in Heaven
So when you knock upon the door
I’ll be just how you remember me
A beautiful dog aged four.

Glenys Fryer (for Buster)

Debbie

I really feel for you, I had to have my old girl (14 1/2 yrs) pts on Oct 12th last year. I'm still not over it. Just reading your post brings the memory flooding back. I had my babe cremated and the creamatorium sent me the same poem. Reading that was the only thing that kept me going. I'm trying to take the next step of scattering her ashes in her favourite woods but it's still too painful.

Thinking of you

Shirley

When I lost William I bought a special rose I asked on here for help in choosing one and was advised to key in roses and it came up with a grower I chose Royal William it took a long time to decide to bury his ashes but then we did and planted the Rose to mark the spot.
But there is another Spot where I carry him and thats in my heart and he always will be there

I'm very sorry to hear, it's always hard and sad when u lose a part of ur family. :(

ttfn :(

Thank-you everyone for your kind words. I know that its the right thing to do but I love her so very much its going to be the hardest thing I've ever done. Even whilst typing this I'm in floods of tears at the thought of it. However I will be there with her to the end.

Thanks again

Debbie

I'll be with you in spirit at the time - you won't be alone.

I felt terrible with mine - like you, I never thought I could cry so much. Be with her, hold her, stroke her, talk to her. She'll slip away so easily, knowing you're with her and feeling your love.

Thinking of you . :(

A nurse once told me years ago the the last of our senses to go is the hearing she said you should keep talking even when a person had died as they may still hear you dont know how true it is but when I was with My William I stroked him and told him he was a lovely Boy and that I would always love him and I sat with him for a while after untill I was sure he had gone.

My thoughts will be with you too xxx

Another Champdogger once posted this to comfort someone in your shoes...

"WHEN TOMORROW STARTS WITHOUT ME

When tomorrow starts without me,
And I'm not there to see;
The sun will rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me.
I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today,
Remembering how I'd lay my head
In your lap that special way.
I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too.

But when tomorrow starts without me.
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name
And petted me with her hand.
She said my place was ready,
In Heaven far above,
And that I'd have to leave behind
All those I dearly love.
But, as I turned to heel away,
A tear fell from my eye,
For all my life I never thought
That I would have to die.

I had so much to live for,
So many sits and downs to do,
It seemed almost impossible,
That I was leaving you.
I thought about our lives together,
I know you must be sad,
I thought of all the love we shared,
And all the fun we had.
Remember how I'd nudge your hand,
And poke you with my nose?
The frisbee I would gladly chase,
The bad guy, I'd "bark and hold".

If I could relive yesterday,
Just even for a while,
I'd wag my tail and kiss you,
Just so I could see you smile.
But, then I fully realized,
That this could never be;
For emptiness and memories
Will take the place of me.
And when I thought of treats and toys,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you and when I did,
My dog-heart filled with sorrow.

But then I walked through Heaven's gate,
And felt so much at home;
As God looked down and smiled at me,
From His beautiful golden throne.

He said, "This is eternity,
And now we welcome you,
Today your life on earth is past,
But here it starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow,
But today will always last;
For you see, each days the same day,
There's no longing for the past.
Now you have been so faithful,
So trusting, loyal and true;
Though there were times you did things,
You knew you shouldn't do.
But good dogs are forgiven,
And now at last you're free;
So won't you sit here by my side,
And wait right here with me?"

So when tomorrow starts without me,
Don't think we're far apart.
For every time you think of me,
I'm right there, in your heart.

Best wishes, thinking of you,

Linda and Kaiser

Reading your message and the replies had me in terars. I had to let my 11 year old Dobie go three weeks ago. She was beautiful and was really only ill for about a week. She was diagnosed with cardiomyopathy in September but the treatment gave her a new lease on life until a month ago. She started coughing and the vet said her heart was failing and her lungs were congested. This was only going to get worse. I decided that I had to be a good mum to her right to the end. I didn't think of my feelings at all. I just thought of her. I still cry at lots of silly times. I met a fully grown Dobie last week and burst into tears over the poor thing.

Take care and know you are doing the best for your dog.

xxx.

"Grief is the price we pay for Love"

Just chased my pup round the kitchen to retrieve chewing gum, and then my daughters toy.
I know at this time how lucky Iam but also know the day will come when my heart will break and that is the only 1 sure thing I know of her future.
It will all be worth the happy times we have together.

So sorry for you. I had my dobe pts on boxing day. I sobbed and sobbed as i held her, but i knew it was the right thing, as you do too. She is now buried under a very special tree in our garden, sheltered from the rain, as she hated getting wet. It truly is the last act of kindness you can give a much loved pet.

I wonder how she is?

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you.

Thinking of you Debbie. I know it is so so hard :-(

When will I ever learn NOT to read these poems whilst at work :-(

My eyes have filled up at work too and made me wanna go home and cuddle my pup...

Jewel...am thinking of you. Be strong and remember as your dogs owner you've always done what is best for your dog and now more than ever you've had to do that.

God bless...time will heal.

Lots of love and prayers,
Claire
x

.. tears flooding down my face as well.

I had to put my beloved Yorkie down in August, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. Even though I have a new lively young puppy now, I still cannot think of Moxie without shedding a tear and longing for her to be with me still.

Joy does not come without sorrow.

Stacey

Jewel

My thoughts are with you :(

Karen

Hi Jewel...

are you ok?

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Love
Lisa

I tried to read the poems sent to you but only got as far as the first few lines. I feel so so sorry for you but I think we sometimes keep them going for selfish reasons ( we just can't let them go). I think you have to think of the good times you have had with your dog and all the love you have given each other. It's a time everyone must dread but at least we can do something about it and not watch them suffer. It must be extremely hard for you and I am sure you will do the right thing. My thoughts are with you .

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I hope you have gone through the worst part and now you will start to rememebr the good times and the love she gave you. It will get easier in time and but her memory will always be there for you.

I lost Mars my first ever girl back in August and was there with her when she went to sleep. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do but it was the best thing for her. As you said you didn't want Cassie to suffer.

I hope you are OK. Thinking fo you.

Lucy
xx

Hello Everyone,

Cassie was pts on thursday. My vet confirmed that it was the kindest and really the only thing I could do. Her body was simply shutting down. We played her favourite game of tug while the vet went to get everything prepared. I held her as she fell asleep. My vet was really lovely.
Thank-you to all of you for your poems and kind words you've been fantastic.

Debbie.

Debbie

So sorry, it must have been hard but at least she is at peace and in no pain, playing with all the others that are with her.

Take care

Lucy
xxxx

Hi Debbie,
Good to hear from you, we were all concerned for you. You know now that she is at peace, waiting for you, and that she didn't suffer. Bless you. :)

Oh Debbie

My heart goes out to you - but you will always know that you did that final act of love and kindness for Cassie. But nevertheless, I am crying with you. Be strong and remember the good times.

Karen

So sorry for your loss :(
They live on forever in our hearts!
Lara x

Hi Debbie,

So sorry for you, but if you felt the time was right, it was the right thing to do. It's the only thing that you can really give your pet back for all the love and happy times your pet has given to you!!

Think of all the happy times and remember how much fun you had with your Cassie.

manda
X
:(

i'm in the other room mum,
i'm just behind this wall
i'll see you when you look for me,
i'll hear you when you call.

i'm lying on the floor mum,
i'm right beside your feet,
i'll be with you all through the day,
i'll guard you when you sleep.

i know you cannot see me mum,
i know how much you ache,
you want to hug me just once more,
you feel your heart will break.

i'll wait for you forever mum,
i know when that time comes,
i'll be here waiting patiently,
with all the best loved ones.

i see it as the last selfless thing you can do, because to keep them giong just so your not hurting isnt fair, but it is the most heartbreaking descision you can make. this poem was in dogs today ages ago, and ive read it millions of times as we give it to clients in a sympathy card when they have to let their babes go, and its touched a chord in everyone.

HI Jewel,
I have just been reading your post and it made me cry, I have a boxer who is 14 months and can't bear the thought of losing him, they are very special dogs and I'm sure she loved you alot. You will never forget her and always have the good (and sometimes not so good memories!!!) of all the daft things that she did. The first time I lost a boxer was when I was a child and I will never forget him, but I can laugh at the silly things he did and all the naughty things as well! It will get alot easy and sometimes getting another puppy can help to ease the pain, although she will never replace your boxer, the whole journey will start again and thats when the fun begins again!!!
Take care of yourself

I will be thinking of you
Jannine
XXX

jewel
my thoughts are with you
emma

i went through the same thing, on saturday i had to make the decision to put my 11 year old dog down. deep down i knew it was the kindest thing to do, but the hardest decision ever. my dog had a mammory tumour and by the time it was diagnosed she was too unhealthy to go through the operation. she became increasingly ill and wouldn't eat at all. i thought i did the best thing for her and i hope she realises that.
good luck, my thoughts are with you, take care.

Hi Baby,

I am sure you made the right decision. But having had to do the same myself this past August, I can tell you it does take a while to get over. Not just the death, but the decision itself. But time brings perspective and the good memories gradually take the place of those final ones.

Stacey

Its the hardest but most loving thing you can do. Please let us know what happened, i think everyone who has read this post is weeping with you. You're in my thoughts
Lynz and Tilly x