Hi Laina,
I've been thinking about your difficulties, especially since I don't think there's any long term Pom fanciers on here that might help your quandry.
Pomeranian UK has contact numbers for Pom club members and breeders.
You should be able to call some fanciers within the breed and ask for possible information or help with her health and behavior woes. I think this might be your best path for you and your puppy:)
Unfortunately, the Dog Lovers Registration is basically useless for information or aid on your dog. It's a registration that was set up by/for Puppy mills and Pet shops. If you do a search on here, there's been explanations, debates, and discussions concerning its legitimacy.
Best wishes and please let us know how things go :)
Toodles