> If the OP can't afford a behaviourist right now which she did post on another thread then this isn't going to improve any time soon for the dog and the family.
Agree with this, that’s why I think it’s such a shame. Neutering costs money so I just wished that money could’ve gone to, imo, better use for a behaviourist. Which is why I mentioned expense, a behaviourist if needed is as important as paying for any vet bills imo.
I also agree entirely with leaving pups and starting at a very young age, granted this helps if the breeder has started this (although I know it’s not often and for a long time that pups are on their own individually). My 7 month old lab has stayed in a crate for a couple hours on her own and just over 3 hours (we went to watch Batman

) with the others in the same room, although she was crated still. I started that gradually though and still make sure that when I’m leaving her for hours that she’s been up for a while and is ready for a sleep, setting her up for success.
I know from experience and seeing the other members of the household do things that they think are ‘ok’ but don’t help pup to settle. For instance when I was first leaving her then I’d get the other people to leave the house first and wait in the car whilst I settled her. Now she settles in no time and watches everyone leave and is fine about it but little things like that I think a lot of people don’t think about and how much hectic energy it creates with the family leaving the house

if I’d left her then, as she’s so social and not used to being left she wouldn’t have settled that well if at all…especially when we take the other dogs too that FOMO for the youngest pup can be real. I know small breeds vary from bigger breeds but it saddens me because the OPs dog is the same/similar age to my pup and I just couldn’t imagine not being able to leave the house etc.
Unfortunately some people want a quick solution but often with anxiety there is no quick solution and as it’s gone on for so long and he’s still very young I think a behaviourist would be the best money spent. I’ve seen it, my dog was nearly killed by another dog and I won’t stop shouting from the hilltops about how my behaviourists helped me, you wouldn’t believe the change and that’s coming from someone who works with dogs - an outsider (and professional) can see so much more than us as owners sometimes.
> I've seen it many times when owners won't allow their dogs to be left ever, I have raised that what happens in an emergency when you are out, be it a medical emergency, the dog will be left and you need from the start for a dog/puppy to have the confidence that you will be back
To quickly touch on this, when I just had one of my girls when she was just over 1, we were out walking and cutting a long story short the person I was with had to go in an ambulance. I followed and dropped my girl home. Nearly 6 hours later I got home, thankfully she’d been used to being left and although I felt awful for leaving her so long she really was ok. I’ve never had to leave a dog for that long and wouldn’t ordinarily choose to but yes I think it’s super important so that at least the dog will not be as stressed being left in an emergency