
I can't comment re an external fixator, but we're 8 weeks post surgery for a broken femur, internal pin and wire "wraps". It's been an up and down time for us - at the 2 week post surgery check up, the surgeon was over the moon with her progress, she was using the leg well and it all looked rosey, but she then stopped using it (which was one of the indicators we were told to look out for). To cut a long story short, the bone is healing well, but the pin has moved by about a cm, and they think it's rubbing on the nerve, so she's going back in next week to have the pin removed. Our surgeon advises us that at 8 weeks the bone should be 90% repaired.
In the meantime we're taking her to twice weekly hydrotherapy sessions to try and get some muscle back in the leg, and crossing our fingers that removing the pin will encourage her to use it again.
We were told to encourage her to use it, but not to overdo it. As mentioned above, our key indicator was if she suddenly stopped using it. Pain control is key, and with everything it's about finding a balance - we couldn't give her too much in case she didn't feel it and did too much, but it had to be enough that she would get up and move about.
From a personal perspective the most difficult thing was the feeling of helplessness. They can't tell you what hurts, and you can't rationalise with them that it's for their own good.
I hope everything goes smoothly for you both though.