we have now desided we are keeping a boy he is small and dont eat alot so im letting him eat with the litter then i take him away and feed him from my finger just want to make sure im doing the right thing for him ,mum not let them suckle now she stopped yesterday so maybe he will start eating more over next few days iv called him ragamuffing :)

I wouldn't hand feed as that is a habit he will expect you to continue, give him something extra by all means but off the dish.

As you say without top ups from Mum his appetite may increase but being smaller won't eat as much as the others.

yes that was my worry he dont eat nothing like them he dont have a full feel about him so maybe we try feeding him just nature diet as not as much is needed ..thanks Rhodach.