Can anyone help me please. My fiance of 10 years has decided to leave over the weekend and I caught him speaking to somebody earlier about rehoming our 2 year old Newf.  I'm panicing as I want to keep him and I'm worried I'll come home from work and he'll be gone.  Vets and microchip and insurance are all in his name, but both our names are on the contract with the breeder.  this contract also says that if we should need to rehome him we have to give him back to the breede. what can i do I dont want to lose my baby

It might be worth ringing the Citizens Advice bureau to see where you are legally over ownership, but tbh if you can it might be worth also appealing to you ex's better nature and asking for the dog. Then get him to sign on paper over to you. I'm so sorry, good luck x

If you are able to keep him then I would speak to your ex and tell him you are wanting to keep the dog and if it should need re-homing you will be sticking to the legally signed agreement you have with the breeder.

If he´s only talking about "rehoming" the dog then there´s no logical reason why he shouldn´t allow you to keep him.  If, however, he want to "sell" the dog then you may have to offer payment for him (even if it does go against the grain), but only on condition the microchip details are changed.  Best of luck.

I think that the first thing you need to do is tell him you will be keeping the dog and it will not be passed on, if it were down to a wrangle between which of you gets him it becomes much more complicated, but legally as your name is on the contract too and as you both reside (or did) at the same residence of the dog he can not sell the dog on, you are a part owner of the dog.

Tell him if he does try to sell or pass the dog on you will take the legal route to secure the dog and that despite your fall out revenge and spite should not be taken out on your dog and in trying to take him from having a loving home with you whom he has grown up with.

Best of luck, but you must stand firm and make this clear. I know sometimes with break ups people stop speaking but for the sake of your dog you must communicate properly about this.

Might also be worth saying that you have been in contact with the breeder and remind him of the contract you both signed.

Hope all goes well. Surely if he doesnt want the dog and you do its better for the dog to stay with you. Its the dogs home after all. My brother in law split with his girlfriend and wouldnt let her keep his dog. The shame is the dog is now living with his sister just cos he didnt want his ex to have the the dog the poor dog as been spited. Are you still on good terms. Good luck

> the dog is now living with his sister just cos he didnt want his ex to have the the dog the poor dog as been spited.

This is where getting the breeder on side might swing it for the OP, if he knows that he has contracted to return to them.

Can i say something that i hope doesn't offend you? Between you and your ex who paid for what regarding your dog? Food, vet bills treats. Who fed and walked the dog. I know you say that the dog is registered in your ex's name with the vet but if you can prove that you paid or contributed towards any bills for the dog surely this would carry some weight in your favour.
I do hope you find a resolution that suits you all.
When me and my husband split up many moons ago, he threatened all sorts including keeping our GR. He said it just out of spite. One week after we'd split he handed the dog over to me as he said he'd changed his mind!

I had a 9 year old bitch back at short notice who had been homed with someone I actually know (without my knowledge) as the owner had met them local to them. 

The marriage had broken down as hubby had left her for another woman taking his Golden with him, but she wouldn't let him have the bitch.  She found her more work than the two small breed dogs she had also kept and let the acquaintance have her.

This acquaintance had a dominant rescue bitch (part of a group that had been reared as a pack almost feral), and she would not tolerate the newcomer and they had a massive fight, and I had a call out of the blue saying she would bring the bitch to me in half an hour.  Said bitch arrived full of puncture wounds fresh from the fight.

After a few weeks just on the point of re-homing her the original male owner rang me, having gone around to see his ex he found her gone, and tracked her down to me.  Needless to say she was delighter do see her Dad who wanted to reunite her with her Goldie pal that she had grown up with for 9 years, and I considered that the best outcome for her.

This long winded story demonstrates who people can use dogs (and children) to play emotional blackmail games with their ex partners.

> I'm worried I'll come home from work and he'll be gone

Could this be part of his decision making equation?  Who looks after the dog during the day, do you or he work from home, do you pay dog care/walkers?  He might be thinking of the dogs best interest if he knows you won't be able to afford dog care or to work from home etc.

However, this is a decision you should be making together and you need to make sure he understands that.  Is your ex fiancé still living in the house with you?  Is there anyone who could look after the dog in the short term whilst the two of you get things sorted?

> Is there anyone who could look after the dog in the short term whilst the two of you get things sorted?

This is where the breeder could be of great help.

I would put in a call to the Newfoundland Rescue co-ordinator, Sue Hislop, to put her in the picture in case he goes this route. Sue would let the other Newf rescue groups know of the situation if you asked her. She may be the one to persuade him to leave the dog with you. Also notify the breeder who may help, if only by taking your dog back then "rehoming her" to you. Good luck.