Can't advise on the nail without seeing it, sometimes they are OK, but it depends on the damage - really your vet might be best this time - a split can be more painful than losing the nail.
>Her other issue is her feet!!!! To trim her toe nails/dew claws normally takes me about two hours as she hates them being >touched or even stroked. I have to get her in a totally relaxed mode and hand out plenty of rewards
Sounds like you have the right idea here - but if you did this
daily with the rewards ;) and not just when you want to trim her nails, she will learn that having her feet massaged is a relaxing and pleasant experience. Then when you have to do nails it won't be such a big deal ;) and if she ever has a problem with her feet she'll trust you enough to at least check :)
You've come so far with her, I'm sure you have the patience for this and your relationship will benefit so much :)