
Hi Kate
I would say you sound like an ideal potential Malinois owner. I have 7. :) The first thing you need to look into, like Ms Temeraire said, is that the breed has very much been split into two parts -show lines and working lines. (Although to be honest I think that description is incorrect -it's more like dual purpose lines and working lines, as the show dogs can often still work but the working dogs cannot be shown.) The working lines are very intense, need a lot of training, exercise and activity, and have been bred for one reason only : to be able to work. Hence these can be over the top and probably not suitable for a first time Malinois owner unless you already have plenty of experience of dogs. However in the right hands these are fantastic dogs. It has to be said though that a lot of people have jumped on the bandwagon -there was a rumour started to circulate years ago that the police would pay £3000 for a good Malinois puppy and so people started breeding them for no other reason than to make money. The wrong people with no experience. When they found not all their puppies were suitable for the police (they do have strict criteria) they got desperate to get rid of pups and hence would sell to anyone who would buy -sometimes totally unsuitable homes. This is why we now see Malinois in rescue -in 99.9 % of all cases the Malis in rescue are working bred ones. There ARE good working breeders, most definitely, but most of them will only sell to really serious competition homes or the police and similar. Beware of any breeder that does not ask you a lot of questions, that describe their pups as ideal pets, and who have not had all health testing done on the parents. It is possible to pick up a Malinois for as little as £150 at the moment as there are too many about and breeders cannot sell them -needless to say anyone like that I'd carefully query as to why they are selling so cheap etc. Normal price is £600 to £700 so one of the cheaper breeds anyway. You DO want KC registration -many are sold unregistered, and many, when they grow up, prove to be anythign but purebred when not KC registered, having a dash of GSD and all sorts in them.
Obviously the looks of the two lines are different -the working dogs are bigger, tend to have a shorter coat, bigger heads, larger ears, paler eyes, darker colour. The show lines (which is the lines that first arrived in the UK in the early 1970s) obviously fit the breed standard better so are the opposite of what I've just described. A lot of the show dogs can still work -and by work I mean professionally, not just agility, obedience and similar. Just to clarify: I currently have no puppies (recently sold a litter) and no litters planned so this is NOT a way of advertising, but I have bred dogs that do well at shows, that compete in obedience and agility at high levels, dogs that work as security dogs, and from my last litter two pups have gone to the ministry of defence for police dog training. So for your purposes, you'd be fine with a show line dog.
The one negative thing about thew show lines is that they can be nervous -it's important to make sure the parents have nice solid temperaments. The breed standard says they should be wary of strangers so yes, it's not necessarily a bad thing if a Malinois does not run up to every stranger it meets to say hello and ask for a treat (although many do and I prefer this!) but they should not shy away either.
Puppies need a lot of socialising, more so than other breeds I'd say. A Malinois will make split second decisions, and what happens to them as pups largely dictate what they turn out like as adults. So they need a lot of nice experiences as puppies, getting used to strangers, other dogs, other animals, traffic, busy places, noises, sudden movements etc. If they decide something is not nice it's hard to change their opinion. Most are either very toy orientated or very food orientated and positive training is the way to go -you can't force a Malinois to do anything as they will just dig their heels in and point blank refuse. A couple of simple examples: with my first Malinois, I still used traditional training methods and when I could not push her into a down to teach her that, I spent an hour and a half with a trainer trying to physically force her to lay down. She might only have weighed 24 kilos but she was stronger than both of us so that why it took so long to get her to do it. Even today, when she is almost 11, she doesn't like going into a down, although she will do and has competed in obedience. Her first daughter that I kept on the other hand went into a down within a couple of seconds with the simple aid of a piece of sausage. I took a couple of pups to training class for the first time this week and when we walked into a crowded, busy and noisy hall full of people and dogs, carrying the pups, they at first got worried and didn't like it at all. My husband and I put the pups on the floor and brought out some hot dogs -instantly the pups started wagging their tails and relaxed. The right encouragement goes a LONG way with a Malinois. (And what is right depends on the dog, for one it could be sausages, for another a ball, for a third a tuggy toy etc.)
The breed is very healthy, average hip score just 9 so essentially hip dysplasia isn't seen but only buy from parents that have been hip scored (many of the working breeders do not, but again the good ones do) and parents should also be eye tested for hereditary cataracts once a year -again it is very rare to have a problem. They tend to stay healthy and live for 14-15 years. And be warned as they do NOT slow down with age!
They will guard naturally and therefore should not be encouraged to guard as then they will go over the top, they need to be taught that when you say something is okay it is, and they need to meet lots of people and get used to being friendly. If and when the need arises, they will guard naturally. If I am here anyone can walk into my house, if the house was empty of people a burglar would not stand a chance.
As a breed they are extremely loyal to their owners. If one person trains the dog they will belong to that person forever and nobody else will really matter. If several people help bring a pup up it will be as loyal to all of them, but they are always one person or one family dogs.
They get on fine with other animals and children if brought up with them since puppyhood, if not, it can be a problem -for instance I would not recommend having an adult Malinois and then acquiring a cat or similar, the dog must be used to them from puppyhood. Likewise they can be sheepkillers etc so again this is something to get them used to from pups; being around farm animals. The best age to get a pup is from 7 to 10 weeks as they bond quickly with their owners and any later you will have more work as they will already be bonded to the breeder.
Well I've written half a novel here, hope it was of some help. :)