My yorkshire terrier died last month and i have had her since i was 4, |(im now 15) i simply can not come to terms with it. I find myself awake all night crying and i wonderd if any nice person could give my some advice. Thank you

Hi

I am so sorry to hear about your little dog. There is a very good book by Laura Lee called "Absent Friend", which helps to understand a little about coping, also Virginia Ironside has written "Goodbye Dear Friend" which I have seen in my local library.

Someone else will know of the several pet loss websites, perhaps you could use your search engine to find them?

Many have lovely poems which will make you very sad but hey, crying is helpful you know.

Do you have anyone you can talk to? Does your familu understand the way you feel? If not there is a pet loss befriender service which you can ring, if you cannot find out the details I will try for you.

It will take a lot of time but one day you will wake up feeling a bit better. You will start to smile at your memories of her instead of the tears flowing so quickly.

Best wishes
Llindsay

Dear Guest, I am so sorry that you are feeling so sad at the loss of your beloved Yorkie. there is no magic words that I or anyone can say to make the pain go away. Please believe that some people are able to recover from such a loss more quickley than others, everyone is different and when the time is right for you then slowly you will start to feel better. Do try to tell your family and friends how you feel but be kind to them if they don't understand just how bad it is for you. I will be thinking of you and hoping you can soon get some sleep.

So sorry to hear about your loss. I know how you feel, as do most other dog owners (pet owners, sorry). We lost our 12 year old Rough Collie in January (very suddently) and we were devastated. We have another pup now (got him in March) and he really helps. We still talk about our collie alot. I have had so many different pets and, inevitably have lost them all over the years. My first dog, who I had to have put to sleep when he was three (he was MINE, I got him when I left school and home) - I was so devastated making the decision to put down a young dog, and I cried for a long time over him - then got the Rough Collie, which helped. When my horse was pts (I had had him since I was 9 years old and owned him for 18 years), I was again devastated........BUT, you will come to terms with it, in your own way - try reading the poem postings further down the board - they will make you cry again, but it all helps. You will remember the good times and talk about the 12 good years you have had with your dog. Remember it was a lucky dog and it is at peace now. Good luck and very best wishes. Shirley

hi, so sorry you are feeling so sad. When I lost my labrador Revel 4 years ago, I was beside myself with grief. What helped me was a friend saying "Accept that you are feeling sad and be kind to yourself, when you feel sad, think about a fun day or times that you had together and you will soon be laughing and crying at the same time, and allow yourself to be grieving, its not abnormal or silly". I remember not being able to wash the lounge curtains for a while - she used to lie against them and when I took them down to wash a couple of months after she died, there were her hairs all over the bottom, where she used to lie against them. I started howling all over again, and hung them back up again! But it does get better I promise, you start remembering the happy times more often and the feeling that you were so priveleged to have had her love. Hang on in there. Is there any chance you would be allowed another dog? I know it seems harsh, cos I know no dog could replace the one you have lost, but to share your love with another can help tremendously. You will feel better soon, it will gradually get easier to bear. Thinking of you.