Just wondering what your feelings are on this and do you believe in this...

http://www.christinehurley.com/index2.html

She has a free call in on tuesday nights and well I called in need some closure with my niece and well she told me that she was not meant to get married, have children ect but was ment to be in heaven to rescue the souls of animals- my sis said she was always rescuing animals and bringing them home- the 2 cats she has were ones she found and her rotti she rescued from an abusive place... Yes it kinda fits and it kinda made me feel better- but i just can't understand how someone so young 17 can die from an asthma attack and to this day I still have problems dealing with it, it bothers me, she passed away in 2006. When she was younger i had her every weekend and summer holidays till my sis moved away. I have trouble forgiving her fiance because he called his parent who were a half hr away but took them 15min to get there but he could have went next door and got our cousin to drive her to the hospital which was another half hr away which took them only 15min- but they said if they were a half hr earlier she would still be here, hubby says I have to learn to forgive him and I know I do but i just can't stop wondering why he never went next door!

Sorry :(

Hubby says this lady could be legit or maybe not but my sis and I wanna go see her but 140 dollars for a half hour readding for 2 thats like only 15min and what can we get outta that- or 80 dollars for 1 person half hour reading- I'd like to cause I want closure on my niece as well as my grandma who was like a mother to me and I feel totally loss without her- she was always there for me. I know its so easy just to throw your money away because you wanna hear more then more so I dunno- would love to but also don't have money to throw like that...

It's awful not have the closure you talk about and my heart goes out to you. 

It seems to me that if you have to ask whether you think the money would be well spent or not you have your doubts to the authenticity of mediums.  Personally, I think they are very clever people but I don't believe in them, although I know people who do believe and are totally convinced by them. 

I think the money would be far better spent seeking counselling.  If you seek a qualified, experienced counsellor recommended by your GP (or equivalent) you will be helped to accept what has happened in a positive way rather than tricked into believing in reasons for your niece's death.

Thanks- I believe you are right and I should have said yes to a counsellor back when my doctor asked me- prob should have, actually I know I should have....  It was funny to cause the clairvoyant asked me if I get songs in my head and I said yes she told me to listen to the words cause there is so much more there then just the song.... When my grandma passed way (mom) before I even got the phone call this song came into my head You are my sunshine then I got the call, like I already knew she was gone, even at her funeral thats all I heard was that song like a music box in my head playing the same song over and over- everytime I feel depressed, down I always hear the song its weird. Iam sure my grandma use to sing it to me when she rocked me to sleep.... I truely believe there is so much more after death, sometimes I wonder why we are even here. I guess if everyone knew what happens after death maybe there wouldn't be this-

Thank you

you can never be sure what happens after till your there, your right but faith can really help. i'm sorry your having so much trouble dealing with it, i can;t identify with waht your feeling about your niece, i've never lost someone young, but i can appreaciate how you feel about your gran- mine was like a 2nd mum for me and we were very close, despite her age and illness it still came as a shock because she'd survived so many big things (cancer, major surgery, strokes, heart attacks...) then died of the tiniest issue.

i'm a pagan and believe that death is simply part of lifes process, the wheel of life turns and returns, deaths just part of the cycle and they'll be back one day. that really helps me cope, hopefully you'll find whatever helps you.

a friend of mine lost her big sister several years ago (she was around the same age as your niece), when she told me about this i explained that from our point of view (pagans) at Samhain (halloween) the next world is closest to us, if you try you can feel the people who've gone before close to you again (i bet you hear more songs in your head around then!). anyway, she said she liked that thought, that her sis nips back for a visit, hopefully you do to.

sorry its a bit rambling, really just trying to put across that you'll find your way to cope- faith, psychics whatever works for you- and that your not on your own with it. {{{{big hug}}}}

hey dollface, I am a total believer but don't know of any decent clairvoyants who would advertise as most of the ones I know of have a £0 advertising budget so rely totally on word of mouth.  I wouldn't pay that sort of money and have a feeling that if someone wants to exploit their gift then they are not the sort of person you would be wanting to see.

Sorry, have had a read and one thought comes to mind......MONEY, MONEY MONEY!  :( :(

Personally I think you would be far better off seeing your doctor and arranging for counselling to help you with these things.  Any money you spent would be put to far better use. ;)

I can't say from reading her website whether she's good at this or bad, but too many of these people have no ability whatsoever except for superb psychological abilities, and are making large amounts of money out of people's vulnerability :( :(  Don't forget, we unconsciously give out far more info, even on the phone, than we ever realise ;)  Unless you sit in a soundproof box and remain completely silent you are still giving out clues which they use. 

Your niece isn't the only person to die of an asthma attack at a young age, a friend of mine died aged 21, she was very fit and active too :(   Unless well controlled, asthma can come on very quickly and very quickly become serious.  My daughter at that age also tended to try and ignore an attack until either we or one of her friends demanded she take her medication.  It seems to me that many young adults are very prone to taking risks and 'pushing their luck'  sometimes with tragic consequences.

Yes totally agree 100% with what Cheryl has said :-) You are still grieving and trying to come to terms with the loss of your niece. I think when we loose somebody a particular song will always be associated with that person :-) I always associate my Dad dying with 'Tears in heaven' by Eric Clapton. It was played the day he died when I was listening (well not really listening as was in shock) to the radio after I left the hospital after I said my last goodbye. These alleged 'Clarvoyents' use very clever tactics when dealing with people as the process when grieving usually have common factors :-)

Lucy
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I hit a low point some years ago and i felt a clairvoyant was my answer and did indeed go, i do believe that some of them have the gift of the gab and are excellent in reading body language especially when you're at an emotional time in your life and you give away signals you wouldn't otherwise do..

If you feel its something you need to do then i'd say go, even now i don't think i wasted my money as she was very reassuring towards me and it gave me a little boost when i was low i can't say it gave me answers but she was very good at explaining the afterlife etc which at that time was something i wanted to hear.. (whether you believe that or not) right now i like to look back and think it was a counselling session with a different edge..

You sound a little like me in wanting/searching for answers to questions that can never be resolved but over time you can accept that..

Take care which ever route you go through Sarah :-)

Dollface,

>I should have said yes to a counsellor back when my doctor asked me- prob should have, actually I know I should have....

Often, counselling is offered far too early for a person to consider it or benefit from it.  You would probably benefit more now from asking your doctor to refer you to a counsellor, than you would have when he originally suggested it ;) 

Hope this helps

I certainly believe in spirits and the afterlife after talking to many through the ouija board,before then i was slightly sceptical.
I agree with seeking out a psychic that doesn't advertise and do radio slots like the one you mentioned...

As for forgiving your BIL,i cant say i blame you for resenting him.Even though they say it's good to forgive,sometimes you just cant,especially if it could have been prevented! Our doctor misdiagnosed my dad and as a result he died,i will never,ever forgive him!

You all have been a big help :)

To forgive yes thats a hard one cause my cousin was right next door- even our cousin cannot understand why he never knocked on his door- So many questions left unanswered and prob never be answered- The doctors did an autopsy on her cause they couldn't figure out why they couldn't revive her after 3 attemps- they got her heart going but it just wouldn't continue- but of course I have not seen the report and all of it is just from what my sister told me, my sister's hubby had the coffin closed at the viewing, his whole family got to say their goodbye's but we didn't get that closure cause he closed it on us- to me I needed that and was not alowed to say good bye- I guess in all I just never got that closure.

thank you

>even our cousin cannot understand why he never knocked on his door

It may have been sheer, raw panic.  Unless we've dealt with a situation like that, none of us knows how we'd cope or what we'd do.  Even trained paramedics can be affected if it's someone they know or love.

I can understand how this is hard for you, saying goodbye is so important.
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Perhaps, when you are ready, you could say goodbye to her in your own way?   Something that would be personal to you?  The children in our family did this when my Dad died, it really helped them and tho it was done for them, it really helped the adults too.

Don't forget about your doctors offer of a counselling referral, but only when you are ready ;)

My cousins son died from an asthma attack when he was only 5 years old :-( It took us all by shock, but time has helped. When things like this happen you go into a state of shock, and what is obvious to the outsider isn't to those who go through the trauma. It's only afterwards that you start to think 'why didn't I do this...?' Her partner will be feeling so guilty himself, has he sought counselling? It might not help at the time, but sometimes several months later, when the initial shock has gone, it is easier to talk about it. Everyone involved needs to talk to someone to help get over the next phase.

As to the clairvoyant. Hmm. I come from a family that 'sees' things. I wouldn't go to someone who advertises in this way. If you feel the need to see someone then try to find them by word of mouth. The good ones are usually well known, and the charlatans are caught out very quickly.

Maybe I'll just keep my eyes and ears open for one-
thanks

dollface, if you are open and receptive to the possibility of talking to the dead, you don't need a clairvoyant hun, anyone that charges is after money, and you won't get the answers that you want, just the ones she thinks you want, your whole life is stored on computers in all different departments, anyone can find out anything they want about anyone with the right contacts, just by starting from a phone number or e-mail address, don't be fooled into parting with money, the real clairvoyants don't do it for money and in your heart you will always wonder were you really talking to your niece or a fake?

If you believe the dead can hear, if they are listening and still with us, then all you need to do is talk to them yourself, clear your conscience by saying all you wanted to, pour out your heart, it will help anyway, you need to be the one to talk because you have things to say that is how you will heal, sit on your own and talk, make your own closure, you will feel much better. :-)

Terrible things happen in all our lives, stupid mistakes are made, we freeze, we panic, we choose the wrong path, but unless something was done with malice, you should always forgive and find peace, as humans we are prone to making the wrong decisions, perhaps those were made with your niece too, but I see no malice that lead to her death, I'm sure her death has caused much pain and misery to all involved.

Talk to your niece and tell her you love and miss her, the best closure of all. :-)

Dollface,the last medium I saw,came to my house,spent an hour with me,amazed me,everything she said was true,she gave me names of people who wanted to give me a message none of this I have a tall dark man here stuff,and she only asked me for her busfare! you need to find your nearest spiritualist church,they will help you find someone who can help,in England,if you give money they give it to  whatever charity they support.
So,agree with carrington here.
Ash

What you said seems so right- I think Iam just going to sit here one night and just open myself up and pour everything out- Iam sure I will feel much better...

Its funny I just got off work and hubby asked me to come downstairs to show me what he was working on for halloween- ya I know a lil early but thats his x-mas- but anyhow I felt a dog sniffing my foot (what dog could resist smelly feet after a long hard day at work lol) I said hey and looked down- nothing there all my dogs were upstairs- weird eh No Iam not crazy I have felt taps on the shoulder and no one behind me so who knows maybe talking to her will be easier then I think, or atleast I can tell her exactly how I feel-

Thank so much you guys have made things a lil bit more easier :)