
A lady in another village had one of my dogs litter mates, a male to my female. I got to know her and we met up several times to give the puppies some playtime. He was bigger and stronger then my dog and always had her on her back, but she relies on cunning to win most times. Sometimes it did seem to get too much and we would part them for a while. We didn’t meet up that often probably a lot less then you meeting up with your sister and her dog.
What we did do though was find a trainer who did one to one training and asked if he would have both of us for a course of training. Our wants were to be able to call the dogs off one another figuring that if we could achieve this then it would be easier to have recalls off other ‘strange’ dogs. The two puppies got on extremely well and developed their own play style which was never used if playing with other dogs.
It took time and a lot of practice, but we were able to call our dogs off one another successfully which continues to this day.
Now if they meet up they play for a while then go off sniffing, unfortunately despite being neutered the male does insist on humping Isla as much as he can, she doesn’t tell him off, just sits firmly on her bum and gives him dirty looks
Look into one to one training that will take both of you, could help enormously