Please lets hope this is a WUM but if not then Social Services need to know.  The only way the poor child(ren) will get the help and support they need in the absence of their mother is to have outside input as the first post is a call for help.

Oh dear, oh dear, what a sad day.

EB I know you are telling the truth as know that from what you have said about your studies that you are genuine :)

I still think that you need to seriously consider getting help :)

Please PM me as I will give you some help away from this as I may be able to give you some help on your studies as well as other advice :)

I am and my OH are Ex Accountants doing other things and also quite worldly wise so can maybe give some direction ;)

Lucy
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Can i just say to people, we have no idea whether this is genuine or a wind up - I personally feel this young lady is totally genuine  :)

Imagine how hurtful it must be to have people suggest "WUM"  :(

I feel that it's far kinder to give people the benefit of the doubt, in these kind of posts :)

Lindsay
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EB I am sorry you have found yourself in this position, and sorry for what has been said above by other people, I hope you have taken Lucy up on her advice, she seems to think she may be able to help you.

I can't believe this board sometimes, I realise what a hard time some of you get from WUM's, but I think some times you can be a bit too quick assume things. If this is a WUM, which personally I don't think it is, then all you are doing is feeding it, if it is genuine then can you even begin to imagine how this poor girl is feeling right now? :(

I hope that the original poster has actually listened to the good advice she has been given on here by people.

Same here, I don't think the poster is a WUM in the sense that she is making any of this up but she has indicated that she does not intend to actually take any of the sensible advise offered so I can't see how anyone can think other than she has come here to tell her story in order to capture a little of our attention for a while.  That could be either a cry for help or not but either way we are not the people best able to serve her needs but we have already told her who can.

Speaking for myself, I do not want to think that the poster is genuine because I do not want to believe that such situations exist in the UK in this day and age. It makes me so angry to think that any mother would be capable of inflicting such a responsibility on her 17 year old daughter, I also cannot believe that somehow, this young girl has fallen through the net regarding any help which should have come her way!! It is so sad!  I am hoping that the poster is a WUM because I don't want to believe that there are such cases.  If the poster is genuine, all I can say is that I apologise for having lead such a sheltered life.......

As a mother and a grandmother, I am sorry but your mother is an absolute disgrace to leave you to bring up your sister.  I commend you for everything you have done and I'm surprised that you have not reached breaking point before now, it is bad enough when illness causes this to happen.  The logical thing is to have your sister fostered, but I know for you that would probably be like cutting off your right arm, I probably would not want to give up my sister either, but from the outside looking in, it would be a wonderful option, your sister would have a steady family life, you could have your OWN life, and see your sister all the time too. You would be a SISTER then as you should be and NOT a mother. Think about it! There are fantastic foster parents out there.

I was one of those who started my post with "please lets hope this is a WUM".  I didn't mean to cause any offence (if it was taken).  My everyday work means that I know only too well the sad state of affairs some people live in.

The OP has obviously done very well to cope so far with her devotion to her sister, but as the post was a certain cry for help (regardless of whether or not advice is taken) the best people to help are the professionals.  I know that not everyone has a positive regard for social services but they do really need to be involved to ensure that the needs of BOTH children are paramount.  The OP hasn't had the opportunity to finish her childhood either.

I do wish them well but I would like to see the younger child supervised by external agencies which of course may mean support for her elder sister and not necessarily removed from her.

I would not jump in with the social services, there is a organisation cared Sure Start, they give back up and help families stay together. I am in a way another way round from you I was left with my grandaughter from 2 days old, I did not want Social Service but needed some help to start. Have a look in your local phone book and see if you have one in your area, they do not judge you all people that helped us untill we had things settled with Savannahs parents were all as friends. They give help one your sister gets to school age she will be picked up from school and taken to one of there play centre's. This enalbles you to have more flexibility when you do look for a job. There are no overbearing and officiose (sp)

Hope they are in your area, we not have Savannah legally and cope well but they got us through dodgy times