the info given to me by my own solicitor and court welfare officer about names is that legally any documents to which is for passport, birth certificate or driving licence, national insurance and bank accounts you cant have a diferent name other than whats on a birth certificate, BUT you can have your kids called by what ever you want for school, health authority,befifit books child tax credit.
i have done so and my kids use our surname, not their birth surnames names.
they are 8 and 10 and know that when simon and i got married i was no longer''''''''but my surname changed.
They felt as though they were not mine anymore and wanted to have our surname.

you can have bank accounts in any name you like and as many as you like :D

REALLY??? i thought that when you open a bank account especially for the first time you need your birth certificate or driving licence/provisional???

Is that still true ? Any time that we have opened new bank/building society accounts in the last couple of years, they demand all sorts of information to check us out in case we are laundering money :D Perhaps it is just us - but thought that they were tightening things up a lot.

daisy

GSD Sam,

Looks like you have gone into it.

However, on the basis of what you say your youngest really has no recollection of her father.  I understand you do not wish to open the can of worms because no matter what application is made in your case you would have to serve upon your 1st partner (if married) any application because he has by law in  marriage Parental Responsibility.

However, on saying that it would be worth looking at the adoption route.  I accept low priorty work but you could look at making the application on the grounds that he is unreasonably withholding consent.  But if the thought of him jumping on the badwaggon and perhaps seeking some form of contact gives you the frights then that is understandable.    I understand your dilema and hope all goes well in the future.  Keep your chin up

Love and hugs

Tessa

My sister-in-law works at the solicitors and we looked at it in depth as my ex wouldn't agree at the time and legally i can't change her surname but she can be 'known' by another surname and she is.

My husband legally adopted Barrie when he was 4 years old. Barrie's father owed £3,000 back maintainance so we did a deal with him that we would not take him to court for the maintainance if he signed the adoption forms.