Look at it this way, if the dog had been taken to the RSPCA or other rescue centre once handed over you would not have been told anything about where the dog ended up.

Ok end of subject, I asked for advice, I got shot down with some hurtful comments along with some support, nice welcome to a site, hey ??
I realise that should I ever find myself in a situation like that again that I make sure I keep the cardboard boxes for my myself, my kids & my dog to live in on the streets just so that I make sure I don't jump into something again & put my kids as my priority thinking that I have no other way to turn.
I can assure you that Millies interests were always my concern along with my childrens, as someone that worked with animals for almost 10yrs as a veterinary nurse & spent most of my days saving the lives of these animals I would never treat an animal unfairly & wish to cause them upset as quite a few of you have implied that I haven't put her feelings first. 
As I have said so many times the breeders sister has Millie, how hard would it be to take a picture that she promised me & email me or call me with an update just to let us know that she has settled well.
I just hope that those that were quick to jump on me & judge me never find themselves in an awful situation like this & I know for certain I shall not be coming back onto this site for any future advice just to have the crap ripped out of me by people that are supposed to care, thank you & goodbye.

Hi Bec,

Please don't be upset by some people's comments and leave the forum.

Like you say, until in that situation no one should judge.

Annee

Hi Bec,

Im sorry you are in this position, but perhaps the breeder just lost confidence in you as a owner of one of her babies, I know I would, Im sorry if thats not what you want to here.:(

I have no advice as i feel it is something you cannot change now but just wanted to say that i couldnt imagine anything worse than being in a position that forced me to part with one of my babies, i would be completely devastated so i really do feel for you and this is a very sad situation for you and your family. I am sorry you have experienced some unkind comments at such a difficult time and just hope that you can all move on from this and that where ever millie is i hope she is happy.

All the best
x

I am sure no-one aims to be unkind, but people are pointing out that you gave the dog back,for whatever reason, and you have no rights to it any more. 

The breeder did the proper thing and took it back for re-homing, which may have caused them time and trouble, but they did it.

The fact they don't want to keep in touch with you, or divulge information about the dog is their choice, and they are entirely within their rights.

Bec, because I have not said what you had hoped to hear does not mean I am unkind, cruel, or unsympathetic, the truth is I am extremely sympathetic to the situation you find yourself in. It was that very sympathy that caused me to point out that those encouraging you to do something to try and get your dog back were just prolonging your pain.

In hindsight we may have been able to help more if you had contacted us before the event, as things are the kindest thing we can say is, there is nothing you can do, the breeder has behaved properly, if a little busk, and the kindest advice I can give is to move on.

Please do not be melodramatic, no one has suggested that you live in cardboard boxes with your children, it is probable you did the only thing you could and are to be offered sympathy for the situation you found yourself in. However slating the breeder who did what they could to help and us who can see this and told it as it is, will not help you feel anything but more pain. You made your decision, the dog is now in a new home so you have no options but to count your blessings and move on.

I hope you will keep us updated if you hear from the breeder or have any good news about Millie, even to tell us that you have heard that she has settled and is happy. Also if at some stage in the future if you take on another dog/pup I'm sure we would love to hear.
Take care of your family and know our best wishes are with you

> I think you have given very poor advice re lying and saying the dog has been stolen and contacting the Police.
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I've not said to lie or say the dog has been stolen.  i said they could say that the breeder won't return the dog or try a civil suite.  There are cases where this has worked.  If you recheck my post none of the words you mentioned are there.

The poor op is at her wits ends.  people don't always do things the easy when under preasure, the breeder maybe should have been more understanding and checked before the dog moved on.  The op said she had a msg to say the dog had settled and on her bed, maybe she was telling untruths.

I am sorry you see some of the posts as unkind, sorry Becs not everyone is going to tell you what you want to hear. but no one has been nasty or unkind to you, everyone has sympathy for your predicament.

Sorry Bec, but you gave the dog up, (the reason does not matter)  my posts where in defence of a breeder who was getting a but of flack from you and some,  when in fact she did exactly what ALL breeders here do ,  be responsible for her pups!

I was simply looking at it from another view point,  as someone has said, maybe  the breeder lost confidence in you, or as I said in an earlier post, maybe the breeder has heard  this before,   playing devils advocate here, but how is she to know you are genuine,   and you simply decided  you did not want her anymore, than after a  week or so (you did not give the time scale,)  you decide you want her back.  it happens at my local rescue all the time, people bring dogs in all the time, with one reason or another, then days/weeks later they come back,  and try to get the dog back..my rescue has a policy, of not returning, sometimes the dog has been re homed,  sometimes not.. I remember one person dropping of their Ridge back after the Pedigree dogs  thing, and a week later came back for their dog, they had changed their mind, the kennel owner told them, they had to pay the dogs boarding fee for the time it had been there (he had no intention of allowing it to go back)  they refused , and kicked up a fuss,  and basically went away with a flea in their ear!

I think two things here, one its unkind to build your hopes up,  whats done is done, you gave the dog back to the breeder,  and the breeder is under no obligation to keep in touch.

Two,   we are only getting your side of a story here, and  your condemnation towards the breeder, I am simply trying to see it from the  breeders point of view, she took the dog back and has done what she thinks is right.

Of-cause as we dont know either of you,   you could be right and the breeder is unscrupulous,  as you feel she is, but the truth is, we dont know!!